Savanna Miller, now 23, and husband Mark, 45, from Sydney, Australia, first met on Tinder five years ago when she was just 18 – although she claims they hadn’t planned to meet
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A woman who is married to a man twice her age has shared how the age difference between her and her husband left her friends behind and faced nasty comments online.
Savanna Miller, now 23, and husband Mark, 45, from Sydney, Australia, first met on Tinder five years ago when she was just 18 – although she claims they hadn’t planned to meet.
They then happened to meet one night and realized just how much they clicked.
The couple soon fell in love and got married in February 2021. They now have plans to start a family together in the future.
Savanna’s family has been supportive, and her mother, who is only seven years older than Mark, even called him her “son.”
“Love who you love and don’t let others influence you,” Savanna said. “I’m so thankful for the friends I’ve lost through this relationship.
“At the end of the day, if your friends don’t support you no matter what, they’re not friends worth having.
“Both parents were perfectly fine [with our relationship].
“My mom calls him son and she’s only seven years older than Mark (same age as his older brother).
“He’s very close to my family and vice versa.”
From the moment they met, Savanna says she felt different about Mark than other friends, and their relationship grew quickly.
She said: “Actually, I wasn’t physically attracted to my previous friends and wasn’t intimate with any of them.
“Don’t get me wrong, they are lovely, wonderful guys and I’m still good friends with them, but physically there was no attraction – although other girls my age always liked them.
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“I think what’s really incredible about Mark is the physical attraction to him and the depth of conversation we can have.
“It feels like we’re both teammates and lovers, just constant support on both sides to be who we are and true to ourselves.”
Although neither Mark nor Savanna have been in a relationship with an age difference before, they never felt it was an issue.
She said: “Our relationship just moved from phase to phase with no verbal confirmation.
“Neither of us brought it up with the other. We didn’t really raise any concerns.
“I think I had in the back of my mind that maybe he doesn’t think I’m at the right stage in my life to be serious, but we both tried and realized we were both at the same stage and agree where and how we were.”
After they got together, Savanna introduced Mark to her family and luckily things went really well.
But other relationships have suffered because of her choice to be with him, including close friendships.
She said: “His friends were good and wonderful and many of them are actually my best friends now.
“My friends were mostly great, but I lost two of my best friends because they couldn’t understand that you could get along and be of different generations, and I guess they had conservative small-minded views of relationships.
“I’ve always felt lucky to have lost her as I don’t think friends are real friends unless they support you regardless of their opinions – we have different lives and should support each other regardless of our opinions. “
At the end of 2020, they decided to get married.
Savanna said: “Neither of us are overly romantic and he had been asking/explaining that we should get married for about a month in late 2020 and I just laughed it off every time.
“One day we were on our way to play lawn bowls with our friends and we were at our favorite coffee shop called Tennyson Bistro in Napier, New Zealand eating smoked salmon bagels and he was just like, ‘pick a date and go marry us’.
“I laughed and said a casual date and he agreed and four months later we were married.”
The couple had a small wedding on February 20, 2021 on the balcony of their home with only their closest friends and family.
Now the couple plans to expand their family sometime in the future.
Savanna said: “We are both interested in the idea of having children but are in no rush.
“As always, we have to plan and discuss everything we do, so we committed it to four years.
“Right now we want lots of adventure, travel and success.
“We’ve already moved across the country and then moved twice, and we want to keep doing that – exploring and finding opportunities to grow together.
“Life should be an adventure and settling down doesn’t have to mean staying in one place.”
The two also post about their relationship on TikTok, where they have over 96,000 followers.
While most of the comments they get are positive, the two say they get a few negative replies — but they don’t let that bother them.
Savanna said, “It’s wonderful because we [get] Hundreds of messages from people who are in the same boat but don’t have our trust and say our TikTok makes them feel better about their relationship.
“We help people ignore the verdict.
“There are such general comments that lead me to believe that people don’t really think too deeply and repeat what they’ve seen on Facebook. It’s just things like “This is so wrong” and “He could be your father!”
“I’m just sitting there trying to mature and not commenting ‘could be your dad next time Sharon.'”
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