A woman who has suffered five pregnancy losses over the course of four years – including two sets of twins – has warned people in “desperation” are being sold expensive fertility treatments that may not work.
ine Lynch, 31, from Cork, has been trying to have a baby with her husband Paul for more than seven years.
She suffers from polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and said she expected her condition to cause problems when trying to conceive.
Her first pregnancy in 2018 was an ectopic pregnancy. After undergoing ovulation induction treatment with timed intercourse, she became pregnant again in early 2019.
Sadly, Ms Lynch suffered a traumatic miscarriage at the age of 11 weeks while on a cruise with her husband.
They were expecting a boy they called Bobby.
The couple started IVF treatment in February last year.
In May, the couple had a positive pregnancy test after transferring one of their seven frozen embryos.
Less than a week later, Ms Lynch noticed bleeding and sadly found she had suffered her third loss.
Another embryo transfer in August was unsuccessful so the couple tried to transfer two the following month and soon found out Ms Lynch was pregnant with twins.
Unfortunately, this also ended in a miscarriage.
Earlier this year, two more embryos were transferred and in mid-January, Ms Lynch was expecting twins again.
But in late January, the couple was once again devastated by a miscarriage.
“People keep telling me, ‘wouldn’t you take a break.’ No, because the goal hasn’t changed,” said Ms. Lynch.
“I’m still longing for a baby and feel like in a way I’d be giving it up if I didn’t work towards the goal.
“I guess I have a lot more heartache to go through to get there.
“But I’d rather not give it up. I would rather keep going and that gives me the courage and strength to keep going.”
The couple now have one more frozen embryo and are “hoping and praying” their next pregnancy will be successful.
Ms Lynch was able to access some of her previous public health fertility treatments but was on a waiting list for two years.
She said she is aware of the financial pressures other couples trying to conceive using fertility treatment are under, as she has taken to social media to share her story.
“Obviously it’s daunting to undergo fertility treatment and it’s so soul-wrecking, but the financial drain is also absolutely huge,” she said.
“At the end of every month you have this urge to leave and you’re like where the hell am I going to get the money? It’s awful,” Ms Lynch said.
She said she also knows of clinics that offer treatments for which there is little to no evidence, which she says is very difficult for couples to say no.
“Some of the [unproven add-ons] are something I’ve really looked into because obviously we’ve only come so far and you’re desperate and will try absolutely anything.
“I asked my doctor about this and he said there is no real science to back this up to show these work. But obviously there are certain clinics that offer them. People feel like they have nowhere else to go and that’s where they find people who are desperate,” Ms Lynch added.
“What makes it worse is that people still don’t want to talk about whether it’s IVF or miscarriage.
“But I’m glad I do it. It sounds a bit silly, but every time Paul and I walked past the clinic, we waved because we had embryos there.
“To me, they are all my babies. Anyone trying to conceive is their baby the moment you see a positive pregnancy test. You will always be remembered.”
https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/after-five-miscarriages-i-pine-for-a-baby-i-may-have-to-go-through-a-lot-more-heartache-to-get-there-41564692.html “After five miscarriages, I’m longing for a baby — I may have to go through a lot more heartbreak to get there.”