The woman took to Mumsnet to post her point of view, which turned out to be controversial – many people said it depends on what the parents are comfortable with
If an unmarried couple has children together, should they take the mother’s or father’s surname?
This is a question many people ask themselves when they find out they are pregnant, and it depends on the individual circumstances.
A woman contacted Mumsnet to insist that the child should bear the mother’s name under all circumstances, as it is heavier during pregnancy.
She wrote: “Listen to me. 99% of the reproductive burden falls on women. All the pain and discomfort associated with pregnancy and childbirth is the woman’s sole responsibility. No man has to suffer in any way physically for a child to be born.
“All he has to do is have an orgasm. So I think the honor of passing on a surname should be reserved for women alone.
“What do you think?”
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The question turned out to be very controversial, sparking a huge debate about surnames and their meaning.
One wrote: “I always thought so. I’ve never understood why most seem to do it the other way around.”
“Agreed! Why do unmarried mothers only give their kids their partner’s name?!” wrote another.
Someone mused, “I think parents should decide together what name their child should have. And everyone else should know that the names of other people’s children have nothing to do with them.”
“My children have my name. I also have the same name as my husband. If I didn’t, my kids would have my name and not his,” agreed another.
One woman said it was everyday sexism that we just didn’t notice anymore.
She wrote: “Yup! Agree with you there. It’s everyday sexism that we all don’t notice anymore. My spouse was very interested in having his name used (he’s not usually that dinosaur) and I went for it.
“Now if one of my children makes a scientific breakthrough, my name will not be in the history books.
“Women are made to brood that they’re not upset about anything, but it’s a big deal when we stop to think about it. I don’t think about it much, but I’m honest enough to admit our decision was sexist.”
One disagreed, writing: “What does all this have to do with you both becoming parents?
“I’ve suffered more than you and you haven’t, so you don’t get the name?!” Uh, no.
“I see it as becoming a parent and starting a family and you all have the same name. If that means taking the father’s traditional name, then I’m fine with that.
“If you don’t want to take his name, that’s fair enough too. Nobody is “wrong”. But pain has nothing to do with it!”
However, someone really ended the whole debate and wrote: “It’s up to the individuals what they do. Do what you like, who cares?”
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https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/children-should-take-mothers-surname-27100594 Children should take their mother's surname instead of their father's, the new mom demands