Agony aunt Coleen Nolan offers advice to a reader whose sex life has been killed by the Covid lockdowns. She says the thought of initiating sex with her partner makes her cringe with embarrassment
Image: Getty Images)
I’ve been married for six years and we have no children. That Lock ruined our relationship as we both worked together at home and stopped caring about each other.
I started seeing him differently and I think I stopped liking him. We also argued and teased a lot – it all felt suffocating.
The thing is, I want to revitalize our sex life, but I don’t even know where to start. Even the thought of initiating or talking about sex makes me cringe in embarrassment.
how do we start I should say he tries sometimes, but I usually turn around and make it clear I’m not interested. can you advise
What advice would you give this reader? Share your opinion in the comment section
Well, look, I think it’s really hard to have great sex (or any sex for that matter) again from nothing, especially when you’ve got all this bubbling resentment.
You have to want it, which means you have to rebuild the intimacy between you first.
Talk to your husband – I’m afraid there’s no getting around it if you want to sort this out. He probably feels rejected when it comes to sex and is afraid to start now.
You need to tell him that you want sex but don’t feel sexy or close to him right now, and that’s something you need to work on as a couple.
Break your routine, find time to take vacations together to change your surroundings, go on dates, dress smartly – remember what it’s like to be a romantic couple again.
You can find that spark again if you’re both willing to try, but it won’t just magically reappear.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/covid-lockdowns-killed-sex-life-26802097 "Covid lockdowns have destroyed our sex life and I don't know where to start to revitalize it" - Coleen Nolan