There are a number of trends both divorcing and divorcing couples should expect to see or even experience in 2022, according to the California-based company. Ashley Silberfeld, Partner of leading company Blank Rome.
Some of these include custody and support disputes caused by the COVID-19 pandemic and even wars over family pets.
“Covid is an equal opportunity pandemic – it really affects every part of our lives, including divorce,” Ashey told The Sun.
According to data collected by Legal form In 2020, 34% more people turned to their website to find a divorce agreement template compared to the previous year.
While not everyone who wants a divorce will necessarily go through it, the number is still a significant increase from the pre-pandemic world.
Ashley said she’s certainly been busy during the COVID-19 pandemic.
“During the first three months of the pandemic, activity slowed down a bit… we’re new to Covid-19, aren’t we?
“And then something happened in June or July 2020 when the divorce world exploded and it hasn’t stopped since,” she recalls.
“I think for some people, Covid is like the beginning of the end.”
Marriages aren’t the only thing affected by the pandemic; According to Ashley, there are three emerging trends in ex-couples who are divorced or in the process of separation.
In July 2021, 16.9 million Americans were unemployed, and 57% of those lost their jobs as a result of the pandemic that negatively impacted or even contributed to the closure of their former workplace, according to the report. US Bureau of Statistics and Labor.
As a result, this has affected people’s financial well-being, and Ashey said it’s going to court.
“More recently – and I expect more in the future – are people who are divorced and have child support and spousal support obligations, should there be a change in work or employment. their business goes down, people need to make more modifications to reduce their alimony obligations,” she noted.
“Everyone [are] Ashley told The Sun.
According to a Pew Research Center research, 22 percent of Americans have moved or know someone who has moved in directly because of the pandemic.
Of those who have moved, 18% say it was a financially-based decision.
“[When people realized they don’t need to] live in a high-rent area of New York City or Los Angeles and possibly go live somewhere more affordable and [it] Ashley said.
“And when people move and have kids, that’s probably the most difficult custody issue in court and we as family attorneys have to deal with.”
American Veterinary Medical Association reports that “85% of dog owners and 76% of cat owners consider their pet a member of the family,” and the growing love for pets is becoming a problem for many couples. divorce.
Ashley said she has seen it first-hand and the trend is only expected to grow.
“In California, the courts still treat dogs as property, but the court is forced to consider what is in the dog’s best interests or the pet’s best interests,” says Ashley.
“I mean the standard of best interest used for children.”
And for those in the early stages of a divorce, Ashley has laid out some ground rules that she thinks will help people financially and emotionally.
BECOME EDUCATED IN YOUR FINANCIAL CONNECTION
Putting a partner in charge of finances is a common practice, but that doesn’t mean the partner should be ignored.
Ashey advises everyone to try to be aware of their financial perspective so it won’t be surprising if your marriage ends in divorce.
“Know where to file your taxes, know what bank accounts you have, know what retirement accounts you have,” she said.
“Knowledge is strength.”
DO NOT TAKE YOUR CHILDREN IN THE INTEREST
Ashley truly believes that the most important thing when going through a divorce is remembering “you are the first parent and divorce the second spouse”.
“Don’t use the kids as messengers.
“Don’t use children as a weapon
“Don’t use your children as your soul mate,” she urged.
It’s always best to take care of your child’s health and well-being first, and keep any disagreements and frustrations private.
DO AGREE WITH THE FUND
Ashley recommends that people have enough money for a few months of spending in their own accounts before a divorce.
“It’s important to have access to funds because in California you don’t get into the courtroom the day after filing for divorce. It can take months,” she explains.
She has witnessed spouses completely drain their joint accounts, leaving the other with nothing left to support her.
“A account drain, believe it or not, is not considered an emergency for the purposes of the courts,” she added.
TRY TO ESTABLISH OUTSIDE COURTS
Ashley describes going to court with an ex-partner as “expensive tuition down the drain [and] reduce payments for homes down the drain. “
She says that settling a divorce in court compromises the “sense of control and certainty that comes from a settlement.”
“When you go to court, a person in a black robe may or may not have some experience in family law that will determine the fate of the most important things in people’s lives: money, clothes, etc. their belongings and their children,” she said.
She added: “Most cases can and should be resolved without people seeing inside the courtroom and the way they do that is by agreement.”
Some ways to avoid getting involved in a court battle include resolving a divorce agreement with a mediator or forensic accountant.
Of course, the cheapest way to get a divorce resolved is for estranged partners to just work it out together and then have a lawyer write the papers, but Ashley understands that can’t happen to every couple. husband.
FIND A LAWYER YOU TRUST
“More than any other type of law I have done, the attorney-client relationship in a divorce is extremely personal,” says Ashley.
“You have to tell a lawyer your darkest secrets, you have to tell a lawyer your darkest fear, because that’s how we can do our job properly. most effective,” she explains.
Because of that, she says it’s important to find someone you trust to handle your divorce.
“Find someone knowledgeable, experienced, [and] will not just tell you what you want to hear but will tell you what they think is right for your case because the two are not always the same,” she said.
DO NOT GET ANYTHING FROM YOUR AGENT
Just as you need to trust your attorney, your attorney must be able to trust that he or she knows all there is to know about you, your history, and your divorce.
Ashley notes: “The worst way for me to learn about something is to hear it from the dissidents of the opposition.
“I don’t care how bad it is. I’d rather hear that from you first than hear it from my opposing party or my opposing advice. “
She added: “After that, I was just completely exposed.
“I don’t have time to deal with it.
“I don’t have time to figure out how we can manage the situation.”
And while 2022 will certainly see the aforementioned scenarios, a lot of people also hope to find love.
According to the dating site Happn, 33% of people between the ages of 18 and 34 are looking for a partner this year.
And if you need some help getting into the dating scene, a matchmaking site has first date questions to spice up the conversation.
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