‘Having sex with my husband dressed as Green Goblin makes me feel blue’ – Coleen Nolan

Mirror’s Coleen Nolan, has advice for a reader who feels regret after trying something new in the bedroom. She said her husband liked it, but she didn’t

To Coleen

My husband and I recently decided that we needed to spice things up in the bedroom by adding a new dimension to our sex life.

We’re both in our 40s and if I’m being honest, things have gotten a bit stale over the past few years.

We both have a great passion for the comic book universe, in fact, when I first met my husband, he was dressing up as Green Goblin at a national convention.

He suggests that we dress up as our favorite DC and Marvel characters and incorporate it into our foreplay. I really wanted to try something different so I agreed to give it a try.

Sadly, it turned out to be a huge turning point for me. As much as I love my husband, he’s no longer as comfortable with Lycra as he was in the past.

As a result, I simply didn’t find the role-playing interesting, but he seemed to really enjoy it.

How can I sensitively tell him that our new test isn’t working for me? I want some guidance.

What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments

Coleen said

Well, first of all, so good to you for taking his suggestion! I think it’s important that you took his idea and put it in the spotlight.

When it comes to fantasy and role-playing, both partners have to enjoy it and participate in it or it makes no sense.

For breaking news, don’t talk about how he looks in Lycra, simply explain that it’s not a highlight for you, which means you don’t feel comfortable.

I’m sure he wouldn’t want you to feel that you’re doing it just for him.

Perhaps you are focusing on the wrong thing here. Instead of trying to come up with big bedroom ideas, why not try building romance and intimacy on a daily basis?

It can be small gestures of love – compliments, sending a sexy text or spending time doing something nice together.

It’s what creates desire and has a stimulating effect in the bedroom. Going from everything going stale to dressing up as superheroes in Lycra shirts can seem a bit stressful (no pun intended).

But perhaps once you’ve rekindled that desire, the quirky night of superhero fun will be more appealing.