The heartbreaking family of a Cavan teenager who died by suicide last year has spoken of the suffering he endured at the hands of a group of vicious bullies.
Raymond Heaslip tells how his son Eden was relentlessly targeted by a group of bullies who would force his head down the “worst toilet” they could find.
Four months after his tragic death, his parents Raymond and Maggie, and siblings, Chloe and Finn, told them how devastated they had been after his death and that life had Their will never be the same.
Speaking on RTEIn Prime Time, the family describes Eden as a happy normal child and “family character”.
But Raymond’s father says they first noticed the change in Eden when he started middle school, saying: “He would come home at night and go straight to his room. He doesn’t seem to be happy in himself.”
Finn added: “I knew from the first year he was in trouble with other boys that other boys were bringing him grief.
“Anytime I go near the bullies, Eden will come and tell me please don’t do it because it only makes it worse, that they tease him that he needs to invite his brother. his own. That he couldn’t. he defended himself.”
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Sister Chloe said the abuse also took place online, saying: “He got it all over social media.
“They set up a Facebook account pretending to be a girl and tried to talk to him.
“He’s very conscious of what he’s posted on Instagram captions. He’ll come and ask me if you think this is okay because people are going to send messages.
“We’re going to the local town and he won’t get out of the car. He won’t go into a store, he’s just too nervous.
Eden, who is shaping up to be a mechanic, has finally opened up about the bullying he endured during a drive with his father last summer.
Raymond emotionally recounted how his son told him: “Dad, they caught me and put my head down the toilet.
“It was never one – it was always a group of them, laughing at me. And it was never a clean toilet. It is always the worst toilet. It was always the dirtiest toilet they could get.”
Eden also told his father that he was frequently kicked, described as “never ending”, and that people would scream at him: “Go home to your own homeland, black protester b) ******.”
Raymond and Maggie shared a heterosexual marriage, but believe Eden was targeted due to his surname being considered in the Protestant tradition.
The devastated father said: “We are a mixed marriage here, and we have a happy mixed marriage. We learned to accept each other’s religion and we lived by it.”
He added: “They decided, by their own ignorance, what he was, or who he was.”
After hearing about their son’s distress, they arranged a private counseling session and also contacted Father Jason Murphy, a family friend, to speak with him.
Discussing his conversation with Eden, Jason’s father said: “He talks about the bullying he went through over a period of years, and he talks about it without any form of emotion. which touch.
“It’s as if there’s an emptiness there – and this has become part and parcel of his life, and it’s his everyday. It’s his normal thing.”
Jason’s father said that while talking to Eden, he could picture himself, at the age of 17, going through what the teenager had to endure.
He continued: “My tears just kept coming – just hearing the pain he had to go through.
“I remember, at one stage, he got up and pulled out a scroll from the kitchen and gave it to me. He was serving me. I was there to listen to him, but he was the one comforting me. . when I listen to his pain.”
Jason’s father went to the hospital and sat with Eden after his death “half an hour until his parents came in”.
In the meantime, he talks to Eden as if he were still alive, explaining: “I’m not entirely convinced he died of the end or of the shock of it, having just talked to him a few days before.”
BULLYING IS NOT HARD
Ever since Eden tragically passed away, his parents have been urges people to speak up about bullying and report it, and also called for the introduction of bullying laws.
Mother Maggie says young people may think they’re just joking, but their words and actions hurt.
“Someone’s jokes are another’s pain,” she said.
“Maybe these young people think ‘it was just a joke, I didn’t really mean it’, but if you get it all the time, it’s painful. And I know it from Eden. It was painful for him.
“They might think they’re messing around or messing around but they’re not…it’s someone else’s pain.”
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