DEAR DEIDRE: My boyfriend dumped me because I didn’t want children, even though I told him this at the beginning of our relationship.
On our fifth date, I clearly remember talking about how I didn’t want children. At the time, he seemed fine with it.
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He is 29 years old and I am 28 years old.
But on the drive home from visiting my nieces last week, he said, “I can’t wait until we start having children of our own.”
I was shocked – I think he felt the same way I did.
My sister can’t wait to be a mom and always had a Baby Annabell doll under her arm as a child. But I want to travel.
I have always wanted to live and work in many different countries. It’s not so easy when you have three kids with you.
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When we discussed it again a few days later, he admitted that he thought I would change my mind. When I said I wouldn’t, he abandoned me.
I heartbreaking. I really think we’ll be together for the rest of our lives.
DEIDRE SAYS: People sometimes forget that becoming a mother is a choice and not every woman considers her children a part of her future.
If you are adamant that you don’t want to start a family, and neither does he, then unfortunately you should break up.
That can be hard to hear, but you’d better realize it sooner rather than later.
To help, I am sending you my support packages to mend a broken heart and move on.
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