DEAR DEIDRE: I opened my wife’s laptop to find nude pictures of her with my golf buddy.
We are both 48 years old and she was always a housewife until our children flew back to the nest.
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This guy is my regular golf buddy. He has a construction company and says he needs help with the books.
My wife did some bookkeeping for the day, so I asked her to help him.
He was 50 years old and divorced with his grown son.
She started working for him when we were out of the house and also doing his books, answering the phone in the apartment he rented.
I noticed that after a few weeks at her new job, she started changing her image – going to the gym and buying sexy lingerie, which she had never done before.
She got up more than an hour earlier to prepare for work, buy new clothes, put on makeup, and even change into a more trendy hairdresser.
I started to worry she was hiding something from me.
So when she went to the store on a Saturday morning and left her laptop unlocked, I took my chance. She left the tabs open and I couldn’t resist looking in.
I was horrified to find a photo of my wife in lace lingerie, in an email to my partner.
After diving into their conversations, I found a lot of revealing pictures that they had apparently taken of each other.
I took some pictures and hid them in my barn for the rest of the afternoon.
When she called me in for dinner, I told her I wasn’t hungry. She looks worried.
Then I said, “Come here for a minute. Look at these. “I opened my phone and showed her the pictures. She was mortified.
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She said, “OK, so now you know. But it makes no sense. I promise you it will be over from now on. ”
But I don’t believe her. She still works for him and they are friends on social media.
DEIDRE SAYS: Explaining to her how worried you are about your marriage and her affair is a game changer.
Perhaps she will now work from home, or find work elsewhere, if she commits to you.
Think about your relationship with each other. What did this guy give her that you don’t have? Do you take each other for granted? Is your sex life on the rise?
What could you change to make things better for both of you? Cheating is wrong and if things feel bad for her, she should speak up.
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