DEAR DEIDRE: I had sex with my girlfriend with another man and then he told her everything. Now she executes our plan to start a family off the table.
I don’t know what got into me. I’ve never cheated on a girlfriend, let alone a guy.
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I’m 36, she’s 32 and we’ve been together for two years.
I recently went out for a night out with the boys on one of their birthdays. The drinking started early and by 9 p.m. we were already six or seven pints deep.
On my way to buy rings, I ran into an old school friend. We chatted and he invited us back to his friend’s house for an after party.
While there, we went to smoke together on the balcony. I feel like he’s flirting with me when he’s constantly finding excuses to touch me and has lots of compliments.
I was really drunk and don’t really remember how it started, but I think he fell in love with the first kiss.
Then he was taking off my jeans. He masturbated me and I returned the favor.
When I woke up the next morning, I felt terrible. Not once have I thought about my girlfriend or tried to tell this bloke to stop.
I knew it was a mistake to be drunk and that telling her would only hurt her. But a few days later, she burst into the living room with her phone and asked, “Who is Mark? And why did he ask me to ask you about Saturday night? ”
He found her on Facebook – I guess he saw my posts about her on my account – and messaged her.
She stunned. Not only did I cheat, but I also cheated on her with a guy.
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She told me that starting a family of our own is not an option right now. I worry that she is having second thoughts about our future.
How to fix this error?
DEIDRE SAYS: Whoever you did this to, man or woman, it was both deceiving and hurtful to your partner.
You need to ask yourself if something is missing in your relationship.
Do you have feelings for men you haven’t discovered yet? My support package Bisexual questions will help you think about why you are doing this.
You shouldn’t consider trying for a family until your relationship is 100% solid. Any child deserves a stable and loving home.
What’s best for both of you is to get some couple’s counseling where you can work through this and any other issues.
My package, How Counseling Can Help, will show you where to find locals.
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