PLEASE CALL: A woman my partner used to work with sent me a string of Facebook messages claiming they had been having an affair and as proof she detailed a birthmark on her left buttock his.
At first, my partner denied her claims and I wanted to believe him, but then she described a dark moon-shaped birthmark on him.
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Even if he can’t deny that he played far.
He worked with her over 5 years ago and it seems that whenever they meet clients in Scotland, they will book a double room and spend the whole trip together.
I am 32 years old and my partner is 34 years old. We have been together for 12 years and have two sons aged five and seven. This woman is 28 years old.
From what I could tell, their affair lasted only six months and went up in smoke. Recently, when she wanted to mend their relationship, he turned her down.
In a fit of rage, she told me – for revenge.
Now he says he wants nothing more to do with her. But I am devastated.
I thought we were happy together and had a good relationship until this bomb hit.
My partner blamed the drugs for his affair and I also learned he did drugs behind my back for six years using money from our joint bank account.
We struggle to make ends meet for most of the month, so this is another hit to the teeth.
He couldn’t give me any answers as to why he was cheating on me. He can only say that it was a mistake, and he can’t remember much about it because it happened so long ago.
Yet I knew around that time our son was 18 months old and I was pregnant with my second child.
I don’t want our family to fall apart, but I can’t stop thinking about you and this girl. And even when his affair is over, he still takes drugs and wastes our money.
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I no longer trust him because he has lied to me for so long.
How do I get over this?
DEIDRE SAYS: Hearing about your partner cheating is bad enough, but hearing his lover tell you about it must have been heartbreaking.
Trust takes time to build but can be destroyed in an instant.
Talk about why he was lured astray. Is it just distance and opportunity?
My Support Package Cheating – Can You Get Through It? shows that you can be stronger than before if the two of you are still in love and ready to rebuild your relationship.
But before you can do this, insist he seek help for his drug habit as it is harming all of you. You should both contact FRANK (www.talktofrank.com).
You have your children to consider, and they suffer greatly when there is stress at home, so you can do all you can to sort things out, if only for their sake. begin.
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