Ms. Coleen Nolan on the Mirror, has advice for a confused reader after a passionate night with her ex-husband
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My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 5 years and I am currently living with my lover.
My ex is still single, although I know he has no problem finding dates and has had several short-term relationships.
My dilemma is, I ran into him a few weeks ago and we went out for a drink to chat, and then went to bed together.
One of the reasons we broke up was because our sex life was non-existent, but when we’ve slept together recently, it’s been fun and passionate, and very satisfying for a change.
This has really confused me.
I feel guilty for cheating on my partner, but sex with my ex is so much better than with him.
Hmm, this is sex for the sake of old times, bringing back memories of when things were good.
It’s familiar but forbidden, so it’s very interesting. But that’s all.
If you love your partner, put in the work for that relationship and get the flame back.
Don’t let your sex life go downhill, leading to the same ending you had with your ex-husband.
Putting aside the things you did, think back to why you got divorced and all the other little things that happened.
Chances are, they’ll all happen again once you’ve gotten to know each other and the initial excitement is gone.
If sex isn’t great with your partner, arrange it.
Think about what would have to change to make it interesting again.
As for guilt, of course, you will, you cheated!
I’m afraid there’s no magic fix for it.
I cheated once years ago, can’t stand the guilt, see how much it has caused, and swore I’d never do it again.
Face your relationship problems before you get to the point of sleeping with someone else.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/i-feel-guilty-cheating-partner-26462046 'I feel guilty for cheating on my partner, but sex with my ex has been so much better' - Coleen Nolan