DEAR DEIDRE: I did oral sex on my colleague’s boyfriend at the Christmas party at work when we were drunk.
Do I confess or go ahead and forget the whole thing?
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I’m 29. My co-worker, her boyfriend, and I spent most of the evening together, drinking and dancing.
Then my work friend went out for a cigarette and let me chat with her partner.
We were both drunk and ended up snoring.
Worried people would see us, we snuck into one of the offices, where I gave him oral sex.
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When I woke up the next day, I felt nauseous. What kind of person does that?
Guilt is eating away at me, and I want to tell my friend the truth. But does that make things worse?
DEIDRE SAYS: I tend to say that honesty is the best policy – these things tend to come up eventually. But sometimes telling the truth can cause more pain than keeping silent.
If you confess, you can end their relationship. You and her partner know it was a drunken mistake and don’t want to repeat it.
Let’s put it down to a bad experience and move on.
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