‘I got over my cheating ex but now he wants me back and I’m so confused’ – Coleen Nolan

Ms Coleen Nolan, with whom she lives in Mirror grief, advises one reader to feel devastated after her partner cheated on her. As soon as she felt she was fine, he contacted her again

Woman looking out the window while biting her nails
One reader felt confused after her ex got back in touch (Available photo)

To Coleen

My ex left me and our two kids last summer. Even though he’s been a hopeless mate during our 12 years together, including several loves, I’m still devastated. It took me a long time to pick myself up and get my life back on track.

I was finally fine and even started dating again through an app. I haven’t met anyone in particular, but I’m out there and enjoy meeting people and dating.

Now, however, my ex has contacted me and says he wants us to try again. He said he had realized he had made a big mistake by leaving me and that he had changed and wanted to prove it to us.

The thing is, I’ve heard this story before – after every love affair – but then everything goes back to the way it was. How can I believe it will be different this time?

We were only communicating about childcare arrangements and I made it clear to him that I was not taking him home. I want to continue my life positively, but how can I be with him?

I was worried I would give in at some point, even though I knew bringing him back was a really bad idea.

I want your advice.

What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments

Coleen Nolan is Mirror’s resident painful aunt

Coleen said

Well, he seems pretty happy with his decision until you start dating again and it looks like you’re moving on with your life.

It’s a familiar story, I’m afraid – he’s not sure he wants you, but he doesn’t want anyone else to have you either!

I understand how hard it is for you to have children together – I was in this situation when my first marriage fell apart and I felt guilty for a long time as my children had to live in this situation. “break the door and destroy the house”.

However, I realize what’s best for the kids is for their parents to be happy, even if that means they can’t.

Look, you’re doing great and things can only get better from here on, and if you bring him back because he realizes the grass isn’t greener, you’ll be disappointing yourself.

You may not have had the courage and confidence to go to this point again and you did a hard job.

If you’re asking a friend or relative to pick you up, do so until your ex accepts your relationship is over. Talk to friends and family, and get support from them.

Read more

Read more

https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/i-getting-over-cheating-ex-26262017 'I got over my cheating ex but now he wants me back and I'm so confused' - Coleen Nolan

Fry Electronics Team

Fry Electronics.com is an automatic aggregator of the all world’s media. In each content, the hyperlink to the primary source is specified. All trademarks belong to their rightful owners, all materials to their authors. If you are the owner of the content and do not want us to publish your materials, please contact us by email – admin@fry-electronics.com. The content will be deleted within 24 hours.

Related Articles

Back to top button