“I had a nose job before I met my boyfriend – he’s considering dumping me over it.”
A woman who felt insecure about her nose claims to have had surgery in her early 20s, she never told her boyfriend about it and he was furious when he found out
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Many of us have insecurities about our appearance, and some will make personal choices about undergoing treatments or even plastic surgery to increase trust.
This is of course entirely at the discretion of the individual and should not make him the target of criticism or judgement.
Unfortunately, one woman was surprised by her boyfriend’s reaction when she found out she had one nose job back in their early twenties.
At 26, she had had her nose operated on at 22, long before she even met her current partner.
However, when he found out, he was so furious that she was allegedly “hiding this from him” that he even announced that he needed time to think about their relationship.
The unnamed woman has turned to the internet for advice as she disagrees with her boyfriend’s stance.
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Accept RedditShe wrote that her nose job “helped 100% [her] Uncertainty”, and so she is glad that she went through with it and emphasizes: “I love my new nose”.
Six months ago, the poster met her current boyfriend, James, and didn’t think to tell him about the surgery, explaining that “it would be weird to randomly say, ‘Oh, by the way, I had surgery on my nose!'”
She added, “Besides, it didn’t matter — as I had done it well before meeting him.”
The poster – who goes by the username u/Few_Astronomer_124 – explained that the conversation finally came up recently after one of James’ friends asked if she knew a good plastic surgeon as his wife was looking for one.
She wrote: “The doctor I went to was amazing (professional and kind) so I recommended him. James then asked me how I knew this doctor. I said, ‘I got my nose done at his clinic a few years ago.’
“He looked at me in shock for several seconds and then exploded. He screamed and said that I had no intention of telling him and that I had been lying to him for all these months. He was so hurt and he said, ‘So when are you going to tell me? which you have lip filler? Or botox? Or lipo?'”
The woman was a little surprised by his dramatic reaction and continued: “I was shocked and said I just had my nose done. It wasn’t even that drastic, but he doesn’t seem to be able to trust me anymore. He said he needed some time to think about ‘us’ – and I can’t believe it’s gotten that far. It’s pretty trivial to me, but I feel bad for hiding it from him (even though it wasn’t my intention)”.
Many of her Reddit peers were sympathetic to her dilemma, but agreed that James had reacted to the news with a “serious overreaction,” especially considering they had only been dating for a few short months.
One person advised: “It’s your body and it’s up to you. You’ve only been dating this guy for six months and he expects to know everything about you. His reaction is worrying and a sign that he may be controlling. Maybe it’s a blessing.” He revealed who he really is early in the relationship, so you can decide if that’s the kind of person you want to continue.”
Another wrote: “While he thinks about it US call it quits US and instead look for someone who feels less empowered to have a say in your bodily autonomy and who will not pass judgment on medical history. Christ.”
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