One woman has claimed she’s footed the bill for most of the big expenses in their relationship, including buying their apartment, but now things are over, her ex says she owes him.
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When it comes to modern relationships, many partners happily speak Dutch, pay half price for almost everything, or take turns footing the bill.
But one woman has shared that this was not the case for her and her ex-partner.
The unnamed woman took to Mumsnet to share her stunning story and claim she paid for almost everything in the 12 years they were together – including buying her apartment and her own engagement ring.
She says her ex had low credit and he didn’t have much money so she would pay and he just contributed some cash to her utility bills.
But now that they’re separated, the man claims she owes him money, leaving the woman and other Mumsnet users baffled.
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The full post reads: “Do I owe him money?
“I was with my ex-partner for 12 years. When we met I owned an apartment. We lived together in this apartment for 5 years. When I wanted to move I tried to buy another property with him but his credit rating was low so I ended up having to buy a cheaper property myself.
“We lived in this new property for 6 years before we split. During those years he paid me half of the bills. It was never really half as he never had enough money because he was always getting fines and stupid APR loans and generally mismanaging money.
“Apart from that, I’ve always paid for vacations, restaurants, etc. I paid for our IVF. Now he says I owe him money because I helped pay the bills.
In the comments, the woman added that they had been engaged for seven years – and she even had to buy her own ring.
More than 280 people responded to the post, with many agreeing that the woman didn’t owe her ex a penny if they weren’t married.
One person said: “They weren’t married. He would have to prove he paid enough money to earn a fair interest in the property, and from the sound of it, he paid little more than his share of the bills he used. “
Another replied: “So he wants you to refund the ‘half’ he contributed during your relationship. Where would he have lived if he hadn’t lived with you? another. Tell him to go away.”
A third added: “So he’s asking you to fund his existence after the fact? Just ignore him.”
Another wrote: “No you don’t owe him anything nor is he likely to pay a lawyer to try to claim anything.”
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