“I recently started dating a really awesome guy…but he’s in an open marriage” – Coleen Nolan

The Daily Mirror’s agony aunt Coleen Nolan has some much-needed advice for a woman who has recently found out the new man in her life is actually in an open marriage

Dear Coleen

I’m a woman in my early 30s and recently started dating a really amazing guy who admitted on our first date that he was in an open relationship marriage.

He said that both he and his wife are free to see other people, but have certain limits, such as who they are.

I was a little shocked at first as I’ve never been in this situation before and normally I’d run away if a date admits this, but there’s something I really like about this guy.

i was online dating Been a while and haven’t met anyone I’ve clicked with like he has.

He’s cute, funny, handsome and very good company.

The sex is exciting too, but I can’t figure out if that’s because I know it can’t really go because he’s married.

I don’t have anything or anyone else in my life right now so would it be the worst thing to keep seeing him?

I’ve mentioned it to a few friends who can’t believe I’m even thinking about it, but why not when I’m single and haven’t met anyone yet?

Am I wrong?

Coleen says

Yes 100% because while you are meeting him you will not give yourself the chance to meet this other person who has so much more to offer you.

Also, your letter shows that you really like this guy, and if you get more involved, you risk falling for it love and you will start wanting a proper commitment.

It’s great for him to be enjoying his open marriage (I’d like to think his wife confirmed that), but what’s really in it for you?

I just don’t know why you would want to open yourself up to heartbreak when there are a lot of nice guys out there who are single.

It might be going well at the moment, but it’s not an equal arrangement — you can never go to his house, or meet his family, or even plan a future.

If you can cut off your emotions and just be in this relationship for the exciting sex, then great.

However, I don’t know many people who could do it, even if they think they could.

I’m sorry, but it says heartbreak here.