One woman consulted others after her father told her why he hadn’t delivered a family heirloom – something she has had her eye on for years.
Image: Getty Images / EyeEm)
A woman who recently celebrated her 20th birthday said she “rushed out of the party” after realizing she had no heirloom.
The unnamed woman who posted on Reddit said she decided to celebrate her birthday with an intimate group of family and close friends at a sushi restaurant.
She said “everything is going well” until she opened her present.
The birthday girl explained that there is a tradition in her family of passing down the heirloom to the oldest people born in each generation on their 20th birthday.
The heirloom is a pocket watch owned by her grandfather, who was acquired by several missionaries and became a teacher during the British Empire.
For more news you care about delivered straight to your inbox, sign up for one of our daily newsletters. this
“As a teacher, he was instrumental in the community and partially funded the first black-owned school there,” she explains.
“He became a principal and to thank the community reached out to buy him a pocket watch.”
The woman is extremely proud of her ancestors’ achievements, saying that passing on pocket watches has been a tradition for generations.
“Traditionally, I was looking forward to getting the watch. I even tried to suggest that I wanted a watch a whole year before that,” she said.
At her birthday dinner, she discovers a parcel on the table that looks like the present she most wanted – her great-grandfather’s watch.
“I made a deliberate choice to open that box one last time to make sure the night ended with a bang,” she said.
But when she opened it, she was faced with disappointment.
She has indeed been given a watch by her parents, but it is a brand new digital model, rather than the vintage version she was aiming for.
The woman said: “My dad was very excited when he talked about the features of the watch, it can count steps, connect to my phone via Bluetooth, control music, measure my heart rate, etc.
“While he was talking, I burst into tears and ran away from the table.”
Her worried father ran after her and the pair confronted when he asked her why she was upset.
“I want the watch, it belongs to my great-grandfather. He said he wanted to give it to my 12-year-old brother since he was a boy,” she said.
“If he gives it to me, it will leave the family because I will marry a man and join his family.”
The woman said her father’s words came as a “blow” because she has always had a closer relationship with her father than her brother.
She added that she doesn’t even think her brother is as interested in the watch as she has spent her entire life.
The woman said: “We had an argument and it ended with him saying that my immaturity on such a small matter was why he wouldn’t give me the watch even if I is son.
“I left after he said that. It was two weeks ago, and we haven’t talked since.”
In a later edit, the woman said she probably shouldn’t have stormed out but added: “I’m extremely overwhelmed by my emotions.”
After asking others to give their opinions on whether she was wrong, many jumped to her defense.
One person wrote: “Your dad is handing you over to an important family heirloom because you’re not a boy. In other words, sexist. I don’t blame you for being upset.”
Another said: “Her father never announced his intention to let it go to oldest SON and only came clean about this devastating news when she opened the gift instead.”
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/family/i-stormed-out-birthday-party-26336643 'I stormed out of my birthday party because my dad didn't give me an heirloom'