PODCASTER columnist and activist Deborah James has said she is struggling to stay awake to complete “death administration.”
The 40-year-old announced this week that she has stopped active treatment and will spend her final days at her parents’ home in Woking.
Deborah, also known as Bowel Babe, has been living with colon cancer since 2016 and has chronicled her journey on her Things Cancer Made Me Say column and You Me and the Big C podcast.
Deborah previously shared the mic with Rachel Bland, who died of breast cancer in 2018, and said there was work to be done before her death.
In her latest episode, mother-of-two Deborah revealed how she’s now tying up loose ends.
Speaking to producer Mike Holt, she said, “I’m currently in the death administration phase.
- Deborah has urged people to donate to her fundraiser – at bowelbabe.org – which has already raised more than £2million
“I distinctly remember Rachel talking about it and saying, ‘God, when you die, there’s a lot of death administration to do.’
“There are things I knew I wanted to do, and doing one last thing with you was one of them,” Deborah continued.
In a BBC interview yesterday, Deborah said she was petrified of dying and was trying to spend her final moments with loved ones.
The activist added that she sleeps all the time and that it’s a strange feeling.
“I’ll fall asleep and it will feel like hours, but it’s actually only ten minutes.
“Then I wake up again before I fall asleep, that’s very strange”.
Deborah said she’s three quarters done getting her affairs in order and one thing that needs to be sorted out is a book she’s writing called F*** You Cancer: How to Face the Big C, Live” wrote your life and still be yourself”.
“I still have a few things to sort out, including whether my book will ever be published.
“I don’t know if I have months that the hospice said it really could be weeks at most.
“Nobody, not even doctors, they just don’t know.”
Speaking to The Times, she also highlighted that on her list will be letters left for her children to open when she dies.
“It’s hard to figure out what to do: you don’t want to rip the bandaid off every birthday and ruin it for her.
“But at the same time, I want them to have milestone letters and fun messages. Here’s my advice on your wedding day what to do on the first date,” she said.
Another legacy Deborah will leave is her fund, Bowl Babe.
Donations can be made at bowelbabe.org and almost £3million has now been raised.
She asked supporters to buy her a drink to “see me out of this world” by donating the cost of a gin and tonic to the fund.
The Sun columnist said it would raise money for more life-saving cancer research “to give more Deborahs more time.”
The money will be donated between Cancer Research UK, Bowel Cancer UK and the Royal Marsden.
She added that she’s always wanted to use her platform wisely.
“I want to raise a bag of money to support the three charities that have supported me.
“My cancer didn’t define me, but it never went away. We knew it would get me in the end, I had to live with it,” she added.
Colon Cancer Symptoms to Talk to Your GP About:
The five warning signs of colon cancer are:
- Bleeding from the posterior passage or blood in your stool
- A change in your normal toilet habits – for example, walking more often
- Pain or a lump in your abdomen
- Extreme tiredness
- lose weight
Tumors in the gut typically bleed, which can lead to a shortage of red blood cells, known as anemia. It can cause fatigue and sometimes shortness of breath.
In some cases, colon cancer can block the bowel, this is called a bowel obstruction.
Other signs of colon cancer are:
- Gripping pains in abdomen
- Constipation and inability to breathe
- Be sick
- The feeling that you have to exert yourself – like number two – but after you’ve been to the toilet
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