A bride-to-be’s brother is agonizing over whether he should attend her destination wedding.
He says he’s going to have a hard time because of it, but has a completely separate issue that causes his family to see him as selfish.
“My sister got engaged recently and truth be told I’m very happy for her, as she and I didn’t always have the best relationship growing up,” the brother shared, who declined to be named. on Reddit at the beginning of the story.
He added that his sister has apologized for her past wrongdoings and that he is glad that she has found her true love.
“That being said, she wants to have a location wedding,” the man wrote, adding that the venue is in Europe, and he lives in the US.
“I told her there was a destination wedding, she needed to be fully aware that people wouldn’t be able to attend. [and] She replied, “Only people who are really interested in me are invited and expected to go.”
The brother then replied that he wasn’t sure if he would attend the wedding and said: “I can respect your choice to have a destination wedding and if I have one, I just want me, my mate and the kisser. to be there.”
His guidance wasn’t good to his sister, who told him it would be horrible not to attend her “once-in-a-lifetime experience”.
Furthermore, when the sister asked about how much she spent per guest on her wedding, the brother claimed that he mentioned helping with the cost of his tickets, and she replied a sternly “No.”
Explaining more about her situation, the person posted the post: “I am currently under financial stress, and the wedding date has not been set, I do not see myself as financially capable.
“My mom also thinks I’ll be an asshole if I don’t spend money on a wedding in over a year, but the idea of that seems daunting.”
However, that’s not the only reason his family pressured him to make the wedding a priority: They knew he was planning a trip with his girlfriend to Paris.
So his family is arguing that if he can spend ahead of a fun trip to Paris, he’ll be able to “calculate” for his sister’s big day.
“That being said, I used my credit card points (accumulated over the years) for my flight and my girlfriend paid her share,” the brother explained sadly.
“Neither me nor my girlfriend have amazing savings and I would be lying if I said I didn’t consider the logistics of bringing my girlfriend to the wedding.”
He ended the post by asking the internet what he should do and he received some positive responses.
“You and your girlfriend have saved up for your trip with a lot of plans.
“It has nothing to do with your sister’s wedding,” wrote one supporter.
“It would be great if you could do both, but a trip to Paris with your girlfriend is a very different trip to a family wedding.”
“Anyone expecting someone to be at their destination wedding is ad **che.
“Why do people always pretend they are having a destination wedding for their guests?
“Unless you’re flying everyone there and paying for their accommodation, you’re not doing them any favors and you’re doing it for YOU, so you can say you’re done. kiss in Greece/Italy/Spain/Anywhere,” a second sympathizer slammed.
The third added: “You don’t have to attend someone else’s wedding if it is detrimental to your work, education, financial well-being, personal financial goals, or conflicts with events in your life. your life. Stage = Stage.”
Weddings are known to cause family drama, as evidenced by one man who has stated he didn’t invite his biological mother from his wedding after she refused to give him the same amount of cash for his big day that she gave to their sisters.
Plus, one bride revealed that she didn’t invite her sister to her wedding, but she showed up in a white dress anyway.
https://www.thesun.ie/fabulous/8306088/told-my-sister-i-cant-afford-her-destination-wedding/ I told my sister I couldn’t afford her destination wedding – now my whole family considers me selfish