“I want to get married to secure my future – friends say my sanity is not good enough”

A woman has said that she would like to marry her partner to secure her future, but some of her friends are concerned that her reasons are not good enough

Frustrated couple checking bills with laptop at home
The woman wants to “secure her future” by getting married (stock photo)

People get married for different reasons, but for most people, the decision to tie the knot is part of a push to advance a relationship and begin the next chapter of your life with your partner.

However, a woman on Mumsnet has said that she wants to marry her boyfriend for financial reasons as she currently lives in his house but is not entitled to it herself as they are not married.

And while her reasons for getting married aren’t entirely out of the ordinary, some of her friends think she’s being “unreasonable” and “harsh” in her demands.

in the her postShe explained: “My partner and I are in our early 30s and have been together for a year and a half. We have lived together most of the time and are very happy.

She wants a claim to the house she lives in (stock photo)


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“When we met I was living in a rented apartment after getting divorced and selling the house. I had planned to use my money from the sale to buy a property for myself, but when I met my partner he already had two properties – one that he lives in and one that he rents out.

“My partner owns his rental property and has a lot of equity in the other property so he was keen for us to live with him which led to me moving in.

“I’ve been living with my partner for a while now and we’re very happy in his place, but I have a bunch of money left over that I don’t know what to do with and I live in a house that doesn’t I don’t have a deposit big enough to buy a mortgage to rent out, so using my money on a rental property isn’t an option either.

“There are plans to make numerous improvements to where we are now, such as: B. a new kitchen and bathroom, but my partner needs to do this in stages if he can afford it. I can’t help but feel like I have a pot of money that could easily cover all this work and more, but obviously I can’t help right now as I don’t have any rights to the property.

“I also feel like I’m in a vulnerable position right now as my partner’s property is appreciating in value and I’m paying some rent to live here. I would have nothing left if we split up and have my own pot of money that has only depreciated in value through inflation etc.

“I have suggested renting out this house and buying something together, but my partner doesn’t think it would be a good option given the high prices at the moment.”

The woman believes marrying her partner is the best option, but has been branded “unreasonable” by her friends for her motivation to tie the knot.

She added: “I feel like for all of these reasons it would be a lot better for my safety if we got married. I am very interested in securing my future. Are my motives for marriage unreasonable, as my friend suggested?”

Commenters on the post were divided because while some said they got her point, others said she could solve her problems without getting married if she bought a percentage of her partner’s house or got him to share her name with her to put his on the deed .

One person said, “Why don’t you just buy part of this house with the money? Or he writes your name on the house and you pay for the renovation? Why do you have to get married?”

While another added: “My first thought was that you could buy an interest in his property. That seems to be the right way to me. But if you both want to get married, why not? I think it offers more security if you go ahead and have a family.”

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