“I want to try new things in bed, but I’m not sure my husband will agree” – Coleen Nolan

Agony aunt Coleen Nolan counsels a reader in her 50s whose libido is on fire. She says she’d like to try new things, but isn’t sure how her husband would react

Dear Coleen

I am a woman in my early 50s and suddenly found a new attitude towards life during sex. I want it more than ever and want to try new things but I’m not sure how my husband would react.

We had a fabulous sex life in our 20’s and 30’s, but in our 40’s it hit a wall which was probably the result of child rearing, busy working life and hormonal changes for me.

It feels a little awkward talking to him about it – don’t get me wrong, he enjoys sex, but we tend to do the same things we’ve been doing for years. Any tips?

What advice would you give this reader? Share your opinion in the comment section

Coleen says

Well, that’s refreshing—usually women in their 50s text me about a drop in libido due to menopause, so I say take it.

I think there’s something liberating about getting through those years of parenting, feeling more independent and having the opportunity to focus on yourself – it’s sexy!

Look, I imagine your husband will be delighted, so why not book a weekend and get started? You can also initiate sex and show him what you want instead of having the conversation first – then you can talk about it afterwards.

I think it’s wonderful that you’ve rediscovered your sexual confidence – make the most of it.