“I’d like to invite my sexy colleague over, but she’s old enough to be my mom” – Coleen Nolan

Agony aunt Coleen Nolan advises a 20-something reader who isn’t sure if he should touch his co-worker. He wants to ask her out but feels intimidated

Dear Coleen

I’m a guy in my 20’s and one of my co-workers is an older woman in her 40’s who I find very sexy.

My buddies think it’s hilarious that I fancy her since she’s old enough to be my mom, but I’ve never met anyone my age that I like that much. She’s smart, super attractive and confident and I want to ask her out but feel intimidated.

Will I look like an idiot if I move? Is it best not to go there as she is a colleague?

I would appreciate some advice from an older lady like you.

What advice would you give this reader? Share your opinion in the comment section

Coleen says

OK, as an “older lady” I would be very flattered if a younger man found me attractive and it would undoubtedly be an ego boost. However, my eldest son is older than you and I would honestly find it a bit odd, mostly because I think I would have trouble finding things that we have in common.

Would I want to get drunk with his buddies? no Would I want to watch the same TV shows? Probably not. You see what I’m getting at with this.

But look, that’s just me and maybe if she’s single and looking for a fun arrangement with no pressure or expectations, then she might be all in.

I think the problem could be when the relationship gets serious, when you’re both clearly at different stages of life, or when one of you is looking for more commitment than the other.

But we overtake each other here. The only way to find out is to ask her if she’s up for a Coffee or a drink after work, get to know each other outside of the office and then move on.

You always have to remember that if a relationship with a colleague doesn’t work out, you still have to work with them!