‘I’d love to have sex with a young man but I don’t want either of us to get hurt’ – Coleen Nolan

Distressed Mirror’s Coleen Nolan has advice for a reader coveting a younger co-worker

To Coleen

I am a woman in her forties and have divorce a few years ago. I don’t have kids yet and I’m not in a serious relationship right now either.

I work with a guy I find very attractive and he obviously likes me too, but he’s only 28 years old.

I think about him a lot and what it would be like to sleep with him, but I didn’t want any of us to get hurt. If I could have fun without taking any risks, I wouldn’t think twice.

But there’s a part of me that worries that it’s a waste of time and that I should only consider older men, so there’s a chance for a proper relationship.

I want to hear your thoughts.

What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments

Coleen said

Even if you start dating an older guy, there’s no guarantee that the relationship will last. No one has a crystal ball at the start of any relationship.

I think you need to figure out what you want – if it’s fun and laceless now, then go full of your boots. Why not?

Just be aware that if you fail, it can complicate things at work.

Personally, getting to know a younger guy isn’t for me – I don’t want to go to bars, clubs, or hike (and whatever else young men do these days).

Yes, it’s a huge ego boost if someone younger finds you attractive and gets you noticed, but for me that’s enough.

If you’re in a relationship with this guy, just have realistic and honest expectations from the start about what each of you wants out of a relationship.