“I’m a 35 year old single mom and I can see myself falling in love with a 20 year old” – Coleen Nolan

A single mum turns to Coleen Nolan for advice after she clicked after a bad relationship with a co-worker – only to find they have a 15-year age difference

Dear Coleen

I am 35 and a single mother to one son.

A few months ago I started a new job and hit it off immediately with a guy I work with.

I thought he was younger than me, but our age never really came up in conversation.

He seemed really mature – much more so than my ex who is 40 and a huge baby.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I ended up in bed with my colleague after a night of drinking.

The sex was great – amazing actually – but the next morning we were talking in bed and he admitted he was only 20.

I had assumed he was about 28, so still an age difference, but not a huge one.

He seemed a bit embarrassed and said he felt bad for not mentioning it before.

I’m so disappointed that I can fall in love with him, but I just don’t see where that can lead since he’s so young.

After getting out of a bad relationship, I don’t want to get involved in something that has nowhere to go.

He’s the first guy I really liked since breaking up with my ex.

Please help!

Coleen says

I know a few couples with a 15 year age difference, although they met when they were both older.

Yes your husband is young but I guess it depends on your mindset and what you are looking for in your life at the moment.

If you’re looking for a life partner and think they’re not ready for it — and let’s face it, who is at 20? – there is no point in pursuing it.

Likewise, there’s nothing wrong with living for the moment and enjoying that while it lasts, which might just be a month of great fun, or it might morph into something else over time.

Maybe you shouldn’t think too deeply about whether it can work, but rather enjoy it and take each day as it comes.

It doesn’t sound like there are any other contenders for the boyfriend at the moment.

This relationship could also be the bridge to get over your last relationship and find the right one in time.

As long as you’re honest with each other about what you want out of the relationship, I don’t see what the problem is.