Finding out you’re pregnant can be an exciting, confusing, and overwhelming time – all in one.
It was a time when a lot of change happened at once, and it was easy to turn to Dr. Google if something unexpected popped up.
However, it can be a minefield that worries you even more when you start your search.
So we asked a midwife to answer a few questions and answer some of the most common questions women and their partners ask on their first appointment.
Speak to The Sun, registered midwife and co-founder of My professional midwife Lesley Gilchrist says most women don’t know they’re unlikely to be seen by a midwife until they’re at least eight weeks pregnant – or even later.
“This can feel like a long wait and many women and couples come to their first date with a long list of questions that they have been patiently waiting to ask,” she says.
Here are the five most common questions women ask their midwives…
- I was drinking before I found out I was pregnant and now I am very worried. Will my baby be okay?
Lesley says most women don’t realize they’re pregnant until they miss their period, or at least until a few weeks later – especially if your periods are irregular and you’re not tracking your period. .
Given this, chances are you’ve had a glass of wine or beer while pregnant.
If you’ve done this, Lesley says, it’s important not to panic.
“Having a few drinks during the first few weeks of pregnancy is unlikely to harm your baby,” she explains.
“The UK Chief Medical Officers and the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (RCOG) agree with this and urge women not to worry unnecessarily.
“They also strongly recommend that you avoid alcohol as soon as you find out you’re pregnant and for the rest of your pregnancy.”
She explains that there is no safe limit to alcohol consumption during pregnancy, which is why most pregnant women avoid alcohol completely.
But what is known, Lesley said, is that the risk of harm to the baby increases with more alcohol consumption.
Some of the risks include miscarriage, low birth weight, premature birth and ‘fetal alcohol syndrome’, she explains.
“If you were concerned about drinking before you knew you were pregnant, or you would like more information and support about your drinking habits, make an appointment with your midwife or GP to discuss these issues. your worries.”
2. I fear that something is wrong. How do I know if everything is ok?
During the first trimester of pregnancy, women are often as worried about not having symptoms as they are experiencing symptoms, Lesley says.
However, most of the time, the absence or presence of certain symptoms is not a sign of anything wrong.
She explains: “Every woman is unique and every pregnancy is different, so how a woman feels during her first pregnancy can be very different from how she felt during her first pregnancy. second or third (or more!).
“While you can rest assured that everything is fine when you hear your baby’s heartbeat, hand-held Doppler or Sonicaid machines used to listen to your baby’s heartbeat during pregnancy cannot detect it. reliably until more than 10-12 weeks gestation and, even then, it may not always be audible. ”
If you’ve opted for a dating scan, this usually happens around the 12th week of pregnancy, says Lesley, and this also marks the end of the first trimester – after which the risk of miscarriage is reduced. down, Lesley said.
“While both events can provide reassurance, for many couples, waiting to hit this benchmark can be a source of anxiety – especially if they’ve had a previous miscarriage. previous pregnancy.
“Self-help methods such as guided relaxation, mindfulness and nature walks, among a few others, can help new parents manage anxiety,” says Lesley. and not sure.
Lesley also outlines reasons why you might need to contact your midwife, GP, or early pregnancy unit:
- You have severe cramping pain in your lower abdomen or lower back that cannot be relieved with rest, warm compresses, or a simple pain reliever such as paracetamol.
- You are bleeding from your vagina. Bleeding can be common and harmless during pregnancy but any more severe bleeding, especially if accompanied by pain, should be investigated.
3. I feel really sick. Sometimes all day and all night. Is this normal?
Another question Lesley says many new moms ask is is it normal to feel nauseous all the time.
She explains that this is a common sign and that some women may also experience vomiting and feel motion sickness, while other women may feel as if they have a bug in their stomach.
For most women, morning sickness symptoms usually subside after the first 12-16 weeks of pregnancy, Lesley said, but every person’s experience is different and symptoms can sometimes persist into pregnancy. next period.
She adds: “Although it is often referred to as ‘morning sickness’, symptoms can occur at any time of the day or night.
“Up to 80% of women experience nausea and/or vomiting during pregnancy and at least 30% of women will need to take some time off work during pregnancy for this reason.
“If you have morning sickness, it’s important that you don’t feel guilty if you can’t complete daily tasks or if you’re too tired to exercise a lot.
“Listen to your body. And remember, you are not alone,” adds Lesley.
Lesley says there are ways to manage symptoms, such as eating less and often, avoiding rich foods, and preferring bland foods in smaller portions.
Lesley says this will help control heartburn, bloating and stomach acid levels, reducing the feeling of being sick.
Over-the-counter self-help measures include supplements (usually containing ginger), motion sickness bracelets, and morning sickness sprays containing anti-nausea essential oils such as ginger, mint, and/or lemon as well. may be useful.
But there are some circumstances where you may have to contact your midwife or GP and these are:
- Have you tried self-help measures and nothing alleviated your symptoms
- You have not been able to keep food or liquids down for 24-48 hours
- You do not pass any or very little urine and it is dark in color
- You feel weak or faint and can’t get up for any time
4. I’m so tired. I feel like I could sleep all day. Is that normal?
While you probably won’t have any physical signs of pregnancy until after the second trimester, during the first trimester, your body is working the hardest and changing the most to make sure your baby is growing and being nourished safely, says Lesley.
“To provide an optimal environment for your baby to live and develop until birth, your hormones need to work overtime and it is these hormone changes that can make you feel tired and stressed. tired. This is normal.
“For some pregnant women, this feeling of fatigue goes beyond odd yawns, and putting just one foot in front of the other can be more than she could have imagined.
“Growing up as a new person is exhausting and this is why it is important for partners and families to do and take on as many chores around the house as possible.
“Getting as much rest and sleep as possible during the first trimester of pregnancy can be essential for the health of both mother and baby,” explains Lesley.
5. Is sex safe?
Everyone is different, and Lesley says some women will report feeling extremely aroused during pregnancy – while others can’t think of anything worse.
“Your libido (sex drive) may increase or decrease during pregnancy, and both are normal,” she says.
“Hormones, fatigue, changes in body image or physical symptoms can affect how we feel about ourselves and our partners.
“Medically, however, there’s no reason not to have sex during pregnancy, unless you don’t feel like it or it makes you uncomfortable (or there’s a specific medical reason for that). caution is required).
“Through sex won’t hurt your baby or cause your water to break.
“As long as you’re not experiencing discomfort or pain and there’s no medical reason for you to abstain, there’s no reason not to indulge,” adds Lesley.
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