“I’m having the most amazing sex with my boyfriend…since we broke up” – Coleen Nolan

The Daily Mirror’s agony aunt Coleen Nolan has some much-needed advice for a woman who was bored with her guy until they broke up and started having “gorgeous” sex

Dear Coleen, my friend and I broke up a few months ago – but with the view that we both need a break and the option of possibly getting back together is on the table.

He moved out, but we met once a week and had the most amazing thing sex.

Is that normal?

Before he moved out, we had our fill and bored with the relationship.

But for us, “Auffallen” was the best thing ever.

I’m confused as to what this all means and really need some advice on what to do.

How can we see a long-term future when we can only stay together by living apart?

Coleen says

It sounds to me like the passion and romance vanished from your relationship and breaking up (and actually dating again) reignited those feelings in you.

Sometimes taking a break helps to remember why you love each other and why you got together in the first place – I’m just wondering if you guys got tired of taking a break from each other.

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I think what you need to look at when committing to a future together is how you’re going to bring that excitement into your relationship once you’re officially back together and living under the same roof again.

What can you learn from this time “off”? When you’ve been together for a while, romance takes some effort.

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You also need to think about what will keep you together if you have children in the future.

One of you can’t always move out when things get tough because you have to be there to support each other.