Heartbroken Mirror’s Coleen Nolan has advice for a reader who met her new man online but later discovered he had a completely different life – with a longtime girlfriend and a child
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I met a guy online a few months ago and things developed very quickly between us. We had a really strong sex and we slept together on the second day.
I can’t believe my luck – and I shouldn’t – because I recently found out he has a long-term partner and a child.
I felt so bad about this when his dating profile said he was single and he told me he was too. In fact, he made up the whole story about his “ex” and why they broke up. All are lies.
I ended up with him right away and I’m so glad I did because he didn’t even regret it or regret it even a little bit. He revealed he has such an arrogant attitude.
I’m angry at him for fooling me, but I also feel like his partner should know what he’s doing – look for other women online. I don’t know her, but I know her name and can find her on social media.
What do you think I should do – just forget about the whole thing apologizing and move on, or let his partner know he’s a rat? I like your opinion.
What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments
You are absolutely right, he is absolutely a rat and I think you should be glad you got rid of it. And you shouldn’t feel guilty because you were cheated on and didn’t know he had a partner and kids.
As far as telling his partner, she may have received hundreds of texts from his disgruntled lovers – I’m sure you’re not the first woman he’s cheated on and you probably won’t be the last. But no matter how smart he thinks he is, at some point he will be discovered.
Also, if you did tell her, there’s every chance you’ll get it in the neck and be blamed for it, and he’ll come out of the scot!
He can convince his partner that you are lying or that you have an ax to ruminate on about something else. So it could be a case of shooting the messenger.
I think if you were good friends with her and found out he was sleeping around, I’d give her another piece of advice.
But you’re angry about being screwed, so you just need to determine if that’s your motive and what you’ll gain by saying something.
I personally learned from this, considered it a bad experience, moved on and didn’t look back.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/im-not-sure-whether-tell-26436981 'I'm not sure if I should tell my partner he's cheating on her' - Coleen Nolan