‘I’m sleeping with a hot company guy, but I’m worried he wants something serious’ – Coleen Nolan

A reader writing to the Mirror’s grieving aunt Coleen Nolan is concerned that the man she is having sex with is emotionally involved

To Coleen

I’m a woman in my twenties and I recently reconnected with a guy I met in college. I’ve always liked him – he’s hot, smart and really funny – but I don’t want to be in a serious relationship with anyone right now.

We’ve started sleeping together, but I’ll be honest I’m not looking for anything exclusive because I’m not ready for that.

He agrees and says he’s fine with that, but I don’t think he’s being honest and I’m nervous to see him if he’s emotionally attached and hopes more from me.

Is it fair to continue with this or should I end it before he gets hurt?

I love and respect him as a human being and don’t want to do anything to upset him. Help me!

What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments

Coleen said

It’s fine to be honest, but if you think he’s getting more and more attached, the right thing to do is talk to him and talk about your concerns.

Ask him how he feels about it – is he okay with a conventional arrangement? Of course, he could say he’s okay with it because he just wants to see you, so in the end you have to be the judge of whether or not to keep going.

And, look, he’s a grown man and he’s capable of making his own life choices, so as long as you’re honest, you can’t blame yourself if he says that he was fine, but ended up getting hurt.

Just don’t make him think it will never get more than this, such as saying things like, “I wonder if we’ll ever end up together.”

Keep everything in the present.