“I’m struggling to get pregnant – my sister-in-law won’t stop sending photos of her baby”
A woman’s patience is ‘weary’ as her sister-in-law shares pictures and of her nephew daily on social media and via the messages – despite her struggles with getting pregnant
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Many parents like to share photos, videos and updates about theirs Babies and kids on social media to show their pride and make even distant friends and family feel included.
While it can be touching to see, some tend to post much more frequently, sharing every tiny update on their profiles and in messages or group chats.
This can be difficult to navigate for those who struggle with it understand took a child and a wife to Mumsnet to share their experience.
She writes: “The sister-in-law is a lovely person, I like her and she works hard as a nurse and puts up with my brother – God knows how. They recently had a baby together – all happy and healthy, we celebrated with them and I adore my new nephew.
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“But. She posts pictures daily. New personalized outfits for babies, ‘4 weeks old today, 5 weeks old today’ etc. Easter outfits sharing every detail on social media and emailing me Whatsapp.”
The woman reveals that her brother’s wife is now not only sharing photos and updates, but also sharing posts that may be perceived as insensitive.
“Now she’s posting memes with her pictures, one of which today reads ‘Until you become a mother you’ll never know deep true love…’ etc,” the post continues.
She concludes by noting that her “patience is running out,” adding that she feels hurt.
The user wrote: “I can’t possibly say anything, I wouldn’t want to upset her, but it’s hard – after a long TTC [trying to conceive] The journey has ended unsuccessfully for me personally, I’ve come to terms with childlessness and am looking for foster care, but I find it cruel to say that unless you’re a mother you can’t possibly know “love” – there are all kinds of deeps Bonds, relationships and connections in life, right?”
Many also felt torn about what to do next, but a few offered useful pointers.
One wrote: “This must be very hard for you but I think you would be unreasonable to spoil your happiness. Can you adjust your social media settings so you don’t see her posts anymore (or less of them)?”
Another explained: “Mute. Just reply every few days. Distribute the answers. She has a wonderful oxytocin high. Things will stabilize over time. Right now your views aren’t aligned (of course you don’t need kids to understand love!!) so step back and prioritize your own feelings for now.
However, one commenter was furious with the memes, saying: “Anyone who sends me a WhatsApp meme about not knowing love until you are a mother would be blocked. This is completely out of order and hugely insensitive. I would just mute the other stuff.”
Another agreed, writing: “I would have to say something. The excitement/hormones of the new baby are nice, but to say that only mothers can know true love is cruel, complacent and insensitive even if you haven’t had fertility issues.
“That’s one of my favorite haters and I always tease people with it. Tell her you enjoy seeing the baby photos but that her comments about motherhood make you feel belittled and hurt and that love takes many forms.”
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