“I’ve finally attracted an adorable bartender at my local hangout, but sex is a total disappointment” – Coleen Nolan

Daily Mirror agony aunt Coleen Nolan offers advice to a woman who doesn’t know whether to continue dating her longtime crush

Dear Coleen

I’m a 27-year-old woman and I’ve had a long-time crush on this guy who works at my place. He’s handsome, always friendly and polite, but I never took a step because I was always in one relationship.

However, my last relationship ended, so I ended up asking this guy out (after a few drinks for Dutch courage) and he said yes.

We’ve met a few times since then and I can’t seem to get on with him. He’s actually a bit shy and not very exciting, even though it’s hot as hell.

We only made it into the bedroom once and there wasn’t much sexual chemistry although I did have a good time.

Should I keep hoping things get better or should I break up?

What advice would you give this reader? Share your opinion in the comment section

Coleen says

Well, he may not be the one for you in the long run, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy this relationship while it lasts, as long as you’re honest with yourself and with him about what you want out of it.

Likewise, you’ve only had a few dates, so you might want to give him some more time. If he’s shy and you aren’t (you took the first step and asked him out), then maybe he’s feeling a little intimidated by your confidence, or he just really likes you, so he’s a little embarrassed because he is don’t want to blow it.

If you want to make things more exciting and fun, why not take the lead and see how he reacts? You could get him out of his shell.