I, like many, indulged in the guilty pleasure that was the first season of Love is Blind during lockdown in 2020.
Naturally, I’ve also watched the other two seasons of the reality-dating series since then, and although in the ‘After the Altar’ season 2 special, audiences were told that every couple in the series those movies all broke up, but part 3 left me. more skeptical than ever – though admittedly it’s also the most entertaining season of entertainment to date.
For anyone unfamiliar with this format, Love is blind saw 15 men and 15 women dating each other through “groups,” where they couldn’t see the other. If they fall in love and decide they want to commit to each other, they get engaged.
Then the couples are treated as a trip away as a quick honeymoon phase. After returning home, they live together and meet each other’s friends and family. Then they walk down the aisle and decide there and then whether they get married or not. All of this happens in about four or five weeks.
What has become increasingly clear over the course of the run is that although hosts Nick and Vanessa Lachey insist it is a pure form of dating where people love personality over looks, it has more than that. more popular with modern-day dating apps than it suggests.
When in “groups,” participants open up to each other and enter into an emotionally intimate relationship, talking about their past, fears, and dreams.
Sure, when it comes to app dating, the first thing that catches your eye is the person’s picture, but sometimes intimate conversations happen over the app, via texting, voice messages, or even private messages. phone call.
In both app dating and Love is blindProblems only began to arise when the couple met.
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First, point out that none of the above male or female participants Love is blind would be described as unattractive. You have some very good-looking men and women, but everyone is attractive to some degree. As season 3 participant Bartise Bowden pointed out that fiancee Nancy Rodriguez “has a very important look,” and he’s right, they’re important to some people.
Remember that Bartise is not the only one with this problem. Cole Barnett also made no secret of the fact that he was not as physically attracted to Zanab Jaffrey as he had hoped. The problem with Bartise and Cole isn’t just that they put too much emphasis on looks. Both are quite immature and not ready for marriage commitment – a problem all too common with modern dating whereby people claim or think they are more ready than they actually are.
I also don’t let the women lose interest, because Nancy and Zanab are also responsible for the breakdown of those relationships. Nancy is an intelligent woman and like many women, she lets her heart rule her mind. Even though everything in her gut is screaming “he’s too young” when they go on a group date (she said so in front of the camera), she pulls through, gets engaged, and ignores all the bad news. warning signs, such as Bartise telling her on her face that he doesn’t find her as attractive as participant Raven Ross, or getting those ridiculous perpetual bracelets (expression) perfect image for trying to force an alliance that isn’t right). She is too hungry for marriage and is the most “blind” participant of all.
Zanab has brought so much burden from her past and problems to her relationship that Cole can’t deal with it. Between that and Cole has a rather immature personality – hurling words and insults insensitively, never really considering the emotional consequences of what he says or does – that relationship really a disaster.
Zanab needs therapy to work through her issues – and so does Matt Bolton, who has moved on and is married to Colleen Reed. But from watching him lose his mind because she talks to Cole and hangs out with her friends, it’s clear he’s still working through the trauma from his previous marriage. He will need counseling if he and Colleen are to have a long-term chance.
The other couple, Alexa Alfia and Brennon Lemieux, have a winning formula that is not only about being willing to marry and valuing each other’s personalities over looks (again, that makes them equally attractive), but ready to overcome all difficulties. their problems.
Raven and SK Alagbaba ended up becoming a pretty good couple, even though they were originally different, and even though they didn’t get married because SK felt the distance would be too difficult to maintain a marriage, they are now dating and Anyone can see it working. Both are very mature, know and recognize their own and each other’s worth, and share important values.
Love is blind won’t become a new form of dating, because for most couples it doesn’t work. But maybe it can make us more aware of some of the core issues of dating and realize that it’s not you, and it’s not me, but both of us.
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