Love letter: Mother of the bride is absent emotionally

There’s something about weddings that tends to stir up unresolved family issues.

Katy Gathright, this week’s writer Essay on Modern Love, had hoped that planning the wedding would be a bonding experience between her and her mother. However, with each passing bride’s timeline, their relationship only seems to grow further apart as her mother accepts the dissolution of her own marriage to Miss Gathright’s father.

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