Paul Lavelle, 50, was attacked by his abusive partner Sarah Lewis in 2017, who then bled him to death – she was sentenced to seven and a half years in prison in January 2018
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A man whose girlfriend used a broken plate to kill him has been “silent” about the abuse he endures at home, his devastated friends said.
Paul Lavelle, 50, was attacked by his partner Sarah Lewis with a jagged shard of a broken plate during a drunken argument at his Birkenhead home in May 2017.
Lewis slowly bled Mr Lavelle to death and was sentenced to seven and a half years in prison in January 2018.
Paul’s friend founded the Paul Lavelle Foundation after his death to encourage more men to speak out about their experiences of domestic violence.
Paul Gladwell, a co-founder, said of the Liverpool ECHO: “We lost our friend.
“He was a brilliant person and we wanted to keep his memory alive, but we also questioned why he didn’t tell us what was going on.
“We later found out it wasn’t an isolated incident, so we started raising awareness and getting men to speak up about being abused.
“Eventually we set up a service where we help men come out and talk about their problems and support them through court cases.
“We’re helping men not choose the silent option that Paul chose.”
The Foundation provides many important services, including healthy relationship education workshops in schools and community sports and well-being groups.
In August 2019, members of the Foundation cycled from Lands End to John O’Groats.
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The plan is to cycle the 440-mile route in four days, with money raised split between the foundation and Alder Hey Children’s Hospital. And Paul thinks his late friend would be delighted to know that so much good is being done for him.
He added: “Paul would be really made up. So much of what we do works wonders for so many people on Paul’s behalf. There couldn’t be a better tribute to him.
“One in three victims of domestic violence are men, and I don’t think many people know that. We didn’t do it ourselves until it was on our doorstep.”
Paul has said before ECHO how he met his boyfriend in 1988 when he was 19 and they went on holiday together to Spain and to Everton games.
He said: “He was comedy gold and a very good pal who would always be there for you if you needed it.
“He met his partner online dating – it was Plentyoffish.com but while he was with her I must have seen him twice.”
He added that Mr Lavelle had begun to distance himself from the group.
He said: “He used to go to the game – and then that stopped. He stopped drinking a beer on a Sunday afternoon.
“He didn’t show up to a wedding a few months ago. We always texted him and he never got back to us.
“The night it happened he should have been at a 40th party he was invited to.”
He added, “And now you look back after it happened all his friends heard little things and when you sum it all up — no one knew.”
If you or someone you know may have been a victim of domestic violence, you can get help here.
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