A mum is divided online after saying she would set a “no gifts policy” at her child’s third birthday party – as some people thought her decision was “mean”.
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An anonymous woman has sparked debate online after she proposed the idea of a “no gifts policy” at her child’s birthday party that would prevent her 25 guests from bringing gifts.
The mum posted on Mumsnet to ask others what they thought of her idea, explaining that she’s considering going ahead with it because she doesn’t want huge piles of gifts for her child to “become the norm”. This is reported by the Liverpool Echo.
She insisted the little one, who will soon turn three, will receive “significant gifts” from her parents, but the no-gifts policy means the other children attending her birthday party will not bring a gift.
in the An entry Captioned, “Am I unreasonable not to have a gift policy for my child’s third birthday?” the mother wrote, “Just that, really. My child is celebrating his third birthday which will be attended by 25 other children. Is it okay to request that the other children not give gifts?
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“My child will receive some significant gifts from me and my husband. I find the flood of birthday and Christmas presents totally overwhelming these days and I don’t want it to become the norm for my child. We already have a lot.”
The mum’s post caused a stir from other parents, as some thought she was being “mean” by restricting their child’s birthday gifts – many claiming getting lots of gifts is part of the “magic” at the birthday.
One person said: “I think it’s mean and will make people uncomfortable. Do you plan to do this for every birthday? I don’t think that’s feasible. Let him enjoy his birthday and the presents.”
While another added: “I think part of the magic of parties and birthdays at this age is opening a small stack of presents, not just two carefully chosen presents from mum. He’ll soon be of an age where he realizes he’s taking a party for free, but nobody’s buying him back.”
Many others praised the mother’s commitment to making sure her family isn’t wasteful and not collecting toys and other items they don’t need, although most said it was a better idea to donate unwanted gifts to charity, as a blanket ban to impose on birthday gifts.
Someone remarked, “You could let him unwrap them, but sneak a few away for charity?”
As someone else agreed, writing, “Why can’t you keep a few and donate the rest?”
And there were even people who completely agreed with the mother, saying that it’s okay to ban gifts – especially when her child is only three years old, so they probably won’t notice the lack of gifts.
One mum said: “I think for second and third birthdays it’s okay not to say presents. Three are still tiny, they won’t know any other way. I recently went for a 3rd birthday where there were no presents, I was so relieved!
“Also, I think no gifts mean you don’t have to make party bags. Just cake, games, good times.”
While another wrote: “I don’t see a problem with that to be honest! I would ask the same thing, it’s not like there won’t be any gifts at all, just not from friends.”
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https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/mum-implements-no-gift-policy-27215327 Mom enforces a no-gifts policy at kids' birthday parties -- but some think it's mean