DEAR DEIDRE: How do I tell my boyfriend that he spent a month’s salary on a Christmas present I hate?
The bracelet he bought was sticky and I would love to return it.
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I know I sound spoiled, but I have a rather peculiar taste – so much so that my family always gives me vouchers or money so I can choose my own gifts.
On Christmas eve, my partner told me he thought he was ‘smashing it’ when it came to my presents this year, so I was really excited.
But on Christmas morning, I was given, quite frankly, the cheapest bracelet I’ve ever seen.
My boyfriend knows I only wear gold jewelry – so why did he buy me a rose gold bracelet studded with pink sapphires?
I pretended to like it when I opened it up in front of his family because I didn’t want to sound rude.
My mom thinks I should just pretend to like it, and wear it every now and then to please him, but I don’t like the thought of lying to him.
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He’s 24, I’m 22 and we’ve been together for 18 months.
I asked if he could send it back and risk hurting his feelings?
DEIDRE SAYS: This is a tough situation – you have to decide if it’s better to hide the truth to save your boyfriend’s feelings or to hope that he values your honesty.
If you want to tell him the truth, there are ways to let him know gently.
Explain to your partner that especially because he is so generous, you want him to spend his money wisely.
Please tell him it’s not something you usually do.
Ask him how he would feel if the two of you could find something together that you would cherish and want to wear every day.
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