“My boyfriend’s mother tried to force me to marry me after the birth”

A mother-to-be faces unfair pressure from her boyfriend’s family, who expect her to attend his uncle’s wedding just nine days after the birth, three hours from home

Pregnant woman in hospital (photo)
She doesn’t want to leave her day-old son behind (photo)

A woman who was invited to her boyfriend’s uncle’s wedding more than a year ago has since had to back out, for an entirely understandable reason.

Since receiving her invite, she has found out that she is pregnant and her son is due just nine days before the big day.

As her baby will only be a few days old, the mother-to-be does not feel comfortable leaving her with her parents while she attends the ceremony, which will take place a good three hours from home.

She also doesn’t want to take her newborn to a wedding, where he’ll naturally come into contact with “100 strangers and their germs.”

Unfortunately, her boyfriend’s family hasn’t exactly supported her reservations, as his mother claims she’s just not “fair.”

Her boyfriend’s mom told her she wasn’t ‘fair’ (photo)


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Speaking on Reddit, the mom-to-be explained that while she’s been friends with her boyfriend for a decade, they’ve only been dating for 16 months.

Due to the pandemic and what she perceives as a lack of interest in them as a couple, she doesn’t really know any of her boyfriend’s family members aside from his mother. Unfortunately, she could not count on their support.

The poster – who goes by the username u/imperfect_mk – recalled: “Well, I’m 38 weeks pregnant and my mother-in-law told us that she paid for our dinner anyway, so we could leave if that made us feel different.

“I told her it was nice of her but I don’t think that’s realistic and laid all my arguments open when she insisted. She told me it’s just not fair that my baby doesn’t have equal access to both his sides of the family because I just don’t want to leave.”

She added: “To be clear, I wouldn’t go either if the wedding was on my side. As I said, I haven’t met any of my boyfriend’s family, not because I don’t want to, but because no one has ever shown an interest in seeing us.

“We have been to a lot of meetings and birthday parties in my family because we are close and they like to invite us. I don’t think it’s fair for my mother-in-law to make me feel like I’m wrong just because she can’t show her day-old grandson to her family as soon as he’s born.

“There will be more opportunities and they can always visit us at home if they wish.”

Her boyfriend is on her side, but after his mother’s outburst, the poster wonders if she is actually somehow wrong.

Another Reddit user wrote: “A baby is not a prop for grandma to wave around at a wedding.

“I am sure that nine days after the baby is born, the baby will get over not having met the entire extended family.”

Another said: “I guarantee you have absolutely no intention of leaving no matter what. In my first marriage, my (now ex) husband dragged me and my 8 day old son to Disney World.

“I spent almost the whole day miserable in the nursing center. To this day I wonder why I didn’t stand up for myself, but that’s a whole different post in itself. Don’t give in at all. You’re going to hate yourself and her.”

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