My ex-girlfriend had cancer and asked me to adopt her son just in case something happened – I said no and now my family hates me
Maintaining a relationship with an ex after a breakup is rarely easy, but one man has revealed the difficult situation he faced when his ex was diagnosed with cancer .
The 31-year-old shared how his 29-year-old ex asked him to adopt her son from a previous relationship if the worst could happen to her.
Taking to Reddit to ask people’s opinions on his actions, the man said: “I met my ex-girlfriend on a dating app ~seven years ago.
“She had a son (at that time 6 months, she dated many boys and ended up pregnant, still don’t know who the biological father is), but it was not a big deal because she seems like a great person and we have a lot in common.
“After a few weeks of chatting and talking online, we went on our first date and had a great time. Then we started hanging out whenever she could, and right after that, we started hanging out whenever she could. she introduced me to her son.”
He then explained that a few months after their relationship, they moved in together to save money.
He continued: “I started helping with her baby whenever I could and we really loved each other, he even started calling me ‘papa’ and we just went along. because my girlfriend doesn’t mind.
“Almost 5 years into our relationship, she told me she wanted to break up because I became boring and not an active person like I used to be (we often go hiking and traveling). around the country on weekends) and that I work too much.
“It was a tough time after that and I had a hard time accepting it (though not as hard as explaining to a five-year-old that he would no longer see his father) but I did. after a few months I found a better job that allows me to work remotely and have a lot of free time so I looked to explore a few other countries.
“A few days ago, I got a call from my ex. She said she was sick and in hospital, they removed one of her breasts but recently they discovered a tumor on the side. her remaining breast and will also need to have it removed.” .
“She was afraid she might die if things didn’t go well and asked me if I would be willing to be her son’s legal guardian and adopt him because she had no one left to turn to.
“I live a different lifestyle now, travel a lot and invest in myself, so I told her I couldn’t do that. She told me her son missed me. and really wanted to see me, but I said no and she started crying and calling my name, before cutting the call.
“I talked to my sister and my parents about this and they told me it’s hard to say no, after all these years with them. Now I feel like trash.
“Am I an asshole for not wanting to adopt my ‘dying’ ex-girlfriend’s child?”
After posting his story. on the social media platform, many people flocked to comment – and many sided with him.
One person wrote: “If my math is right, you broke up about two years ago, that’s a long time for a kid. Of course we’ll miss you but not best friends here this moment.
“The chances of her dying in the short term are pretty low. Letting her know you’re not around allows her to make other plans in the long term.”
A second person commented: “She dropped you because you were obviously too ‘boring’. Now she realizes that you are not boring but responsible because no one else I guess she finds ‘fun’. seems’ ‘wanted to step up and take the responsibility.”
“Even though it sucks for the child, the mother is responsible for it, not you. She made very bad choices in life and now she has to realize it. that she is responsible for what might happen to her child if he dies. You are not responsible here.”
And a third said: “It was a sad situation but it’s not your problem anymore. You weren’t good enough when she broke it but now you’re sudden? Doesn’t sound cold, but Go.”
https://www.thesun.ie/fabulous/8190183/man-slammed-ex-girlfriend-cancer-wont-adopt-son/ My ex-girlfriend had cancer and asked me to adopt her son just in case something happened – I said no and now my family hates me