DEAR DEIDRE: My dad provides for our family and works very hard but I feel absolutely nothing for him.
I don’t like him and the thought of having to take care of him in his old age makes me angry.
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I am the youngest in a family of three brothers. We all still live at home.
My father is 53 years old, my mother is 51 years old, I am 18 years old and my brothers are 19 and 21 years old.
Dad has always worked long hours as long as I can remember but he came home stressed and grumpy.
I can’t remember ever playing with him, not once.
Mom was patient and cheerful, while he kept shouting at us and just wanted to watch or read about his beloved football team.
I ignored him completely, while my brothers stood up to him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your dad is very focused on his work and that may be how he sees his role – providing for the family.
Try to build a closer relationship with your dad, talk to him and explain that you want to get to know him better.
We all learn to love from our parents, and if your father grew up in a cold home – with no hugs, kisses or cuddles – he may also struggle to show you that he loves you. friend.
Can you suggest that just the two of you go watch his team play, or go for a walk or have a drink together?
You can find great help through themix.org.uk (0808 808 4994).
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