A conflicted bride-to-be has expressed online her concerns over her husband-to-be’s request that an ex-girlfriend she’s never met attend their intimate wedding
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A row between soon-to-be newlyweds over whether to invite the groom’s ex to their wedding has divided people online.
The bride-to-be expressed concerns about her husband-to-be’s request to have an ex-girlfriend, whom she has never met at their intimate wedding of fewer than 50 guests.
Seeking advice on Mumsnet, the anonymous woman wrote: “My fiancé wants to invite his ex to our wedding.
“I don’t want any exes there at all, we have a small wedding with just close friends and family. Less than 50 guests.
“The thing is his best friend is in a relationship with his ex now. They don’t live together, but I’d say it’s serious.
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“I’ve never met her and I don’t really plan to. I don’t want her there but fiancé says he can’t not when she’s with his best friend!
“I don’t want her there because I don’t think any of our ex-boyfriends should be invited.”
The bride went on to ask other members, “Am I being unreasonable?” adding, “I absolutely didn’t say it, but I did say how I felt.”
The post was met with dozens of comments from mums sharing their views on the couple’s predicament – and while arguments were made for both sides of the debate, most appeared to support the woman’s fiancé.
One person wrote: “I think you are being unreasonable. His previous relationships are over. She is with his boyfriend and will be her plus one.
Another commented, “‘No exes at the wedding’ is a weird blanket rule. People have all kinds of relationships with their exes, from friendly and platonic to hostile and toxic, and pretty much everything in between.
“If an ex is just a pal now, why wouldn’t you want him around? And especially if she is now in a relationship with his best friend – he is right, he cannot invite his friend, but not his friend’s partner!
“If you think they’re a match for each other, you shouldn’t marry him. If you don’t think that and just feel ‘weird’ then it’s not based on anything real and you should find out why you feel so strongly about it.”
And a third person said: “My ex was best man at my wedding. It’s an ex. You’re getting married. If that unsettles you, you have bigger problems than if your ex comes to the wedding.”
“I wonder why you haven’t met her yet.”
Others supported the bride-to-be’s point of view, with one member writing: “If you’re not comfortable with her being there then I think that’s your choice. It’s your wedding!”
Another said: “This is your wedding, I strongly believe you both should have veto power over things you don’t want.
“It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t want an ex there or no particular decoration. This isn’t his best friend’s wedding, he’ll get over not bringing his girlfriend.”
Another commented: “50 people and ex among them. No no no. It’s so wrong!”
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