DEAR DEIDRE: My girlfriend seems to flirt with every man that crosses her path – and my instincts say it doesn’t end there.
But despite several scenarios that don’t add up, I can’t prove anything. She said if I don’t trust her, we’re over.
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When we got together, she made me feel so special – as if I was the only one in the room.
But now I see how she works with virtually every man she meets, whether they are other fathers at her child’s school, business contacts or random men. .
She keeps in touch with her ex through social media.
I am 45 years old and my girlfriend is 41 years old. We have been a couple for two years and moved in together six months ago.
I really like her but I’m wary because she has men coming to her house drinking at all hours.
Then she wants to go away for the weekend to be with one of these men, who is supposed to be just friends.
I didn’t approve, so she canceled. But a few months later, she said she was going with a girlfriend.
I think she secretly went to see this male friend. Right before we moved in together, an old lover who was a club security guard came to her house in the early hours to “comfort her”.
It was obvious that she was upset on a night out and he cared about her.
Recently, a friend of mine saw her at a party. She flirted with one of the men there for a long time.
She danced with this guy, hugged and kissed him – then headed back to his house.
She lied when I confronted her, saying that she left the party to go have more drinks at her girlfriend’s house.
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Her explanation was fruitless and in the end, she admitted to going to his house, insisting nothing had happened.
She got upset and said we couldn’t continue unless I stopped doubting. Am I paranoid?
DEIDRE SAYS: No wonder you don’t feel right. When you have a gut feeling, it’s best to pay attention.
In your opinion, you cannot put this matter aside. It must be resolved.
Playing detective is giving you a hard time and isn’t solving anything.
Tell her you’re worried she’s cheating, there’s a risk of coronavirus transmission these days, so of course you want reassurance.
Explain that you want to know how to strengthen your relationship, so that she no longer feels the need to keep in touch with other men, as of course that will weaken your relationship. .
But this will only work if you’re prepared to walk away if she doesn’t show more respect for your feelings.
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