A woman has revealed how she and her husband use secret codes to communicate with each other while raising children.
Caroline Hardin, believed to be from the US, has revealed how she and her partner used a parenting technique known as ‘YCYC’ in a TikTok Videos has been viewed more than 900 thousand times.
In the video, Caroline is asked by a user to explain what ‘YCYC’ is and how parents use it in everyday life.
Caroline wrote in a comment that the acronym YCYC stands for your choices, your consequences.
In the video, she explains several situations in which she and her partner use their secret codes, to give their children autonomy and learn from their mistakes with natural consequences.
“If my baby wants to stay up all night, I don’t care,” she said.
“I do not really care.
“So in that case the consequence would be that I lose free time, which doesn’t belong to her (Daughter Caroline) so she can’t make that choice.
“The choice she can make is to stay all night in her room if she wants to.”
She continued: “She has a flashlight and she reads for as long as she wants.
“Sometimes two minutes, sometimes twenty, it doesn’t matter.”
She explains that when she or her husband uses YCYC it’s usually because one of them doesn’t want to take responsibility for what happens next and doesn’t want to argue about it.
To make sure her child doesn’t feel responsible for the parent’s disagreement, the couple will signal ‘YCYC’ with their hands behind the child’s back.
That means the other person can either drop it or take responsibility.
Caroline also said it’s important that the person who chooses also has the ability to accept / handle / bear the consequences.
Another example she shares about using YCYC is where her daughter learned that eating too much sugar can make her stomach upset and believes that the natural consequences of using YCYC will help her daughter not overeat. much for her to decide.
Users love Caroline’s parenting tips, which not only show children the consequences of their actions, but they also prevent arguments with their partners.
One user wrote: “This is clever, because most of the decisions I made as a kid were structured to avoid my mom getting mad, not really having natural consequences.”
“I call this picking my battles. Lol. I want them to listen to what really matters.” Wrote a mother.
A third commented: “This is incredible and I’d love to hear more about it.”
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