DEAR DEIDRE: My husband of 20 years likes to dress like a woman.
I knew this early on in our relationship and because I loved him so much and wanted him to be happy I supported him.
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But now I fear that his needs go much deeper and that he really wants to be transgendered as a woman. I’m afraid if he does, I won’t be able to be with him.
I’m 41 and he’s 44, we have a 19 year old daughter and an 18 year old son, both in college.
Now he wants to dress up all the time and stay up late editing photos to make himself look more feminine.
He goes to bed very late even though he wakes up at 6am to start driving the train.
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We still have a good sex life and he told me he’s only attracted to women.
I want him to be happy and can’t help but feel like he’s hiding something more.
DEIDRE SAYS: Wanting to wear women’s clothes is a very different thing than actually wanting to be a woman.
Transgendering is a big procedure and if he is considering this it may take time for him to feel completely certain.
Most crossdressers are very happy in their heterosexual relationships.
It is clothing that meets their needs.
I’m submitting a Crossdressing support package, which provides more details.
Please contact beaumontsociety.org.uk (01582 412 220) for advice and support.
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