A BIRTHDAY could not help but feel uncomfortable after a tense disagreement with her mother-in-law’s teenage stepchild.
She said she yelled at the teen for buying a sweet 16-inch dress during her bridal appointment, which prompted the girl and her mother-in-law to storm out and her family to protest.
The bride explained exactly what happened in an anonymous Reddit post, where she admitted that she may have not handled the situation correctly.
“I invited my mother-in-law to shop for wedding dresses like an olive branch because we don’t have the best relationship,” she said at the top of her post.
The mother-in-law accepts but asks if she can bring her boyfriend, 15 years younger, with whom the bride is named Emily for the story.
The bride agrees but says the problem is that Emily is a divorced child and now has both parents vying for her affections, which often materialize into lavish gifts.
For example, for her sweet 16, Emily is throwing a big party, is going to Disney, and is having her third anniversary with just her mom.
“She talked about it non-stop, picking out the car she wanted, planning the actual day,” the bride recalls, adding that the party fell in the same month as her wedding.
“The problem started when Emily was walking around the store and found a dress she loved for her party.
“Mother-in-law told her to give it a try, which annoyed me because it wasn’t Emily’s event.”
While the bride’s mother told her mother-in-law it was “bad etiquette,” the bride wanted to benefit her mother-in-law as she seemed surprised that trying on dresses would be considered rude.
However, the conversation about etiquette completely exploded when Emily overheard what they were discussing and called the bride “zilla”.
“I asked Emily to stay out of adult conversation and Emily said [my] The mother-in-law thinks it’s not her fault that her relationship with her son is strained because we’re too picky and she’s really just trying on a dress,” the bride stated.
“I’m mad at Emily that she doesn’t know what she’s talking about and maybe she’ll get a clue when she gets older, but a wedding is more important than some birthday party.”
She continued: “I was told birthdays come every year and it’s really not that special.
“Emily tells me it’s chilling down my spine and why can’t I share and all the dresses I’ve tried on are ‘basic.’
“Eventually the mother-in-law told Emily they were going to leave and storm out (after paying for the dress).”
The distraught bride ended her post by saying that her mother-in-law’s boyfriend was too angry about the situation and called her a “drama queen”.
And unfortunately for the bride, the internet largely agrees with him.
“Here’s the thing,” noted one Redditor.
“HHER birthday is more important to her than YOUR wedding.
“Why would you argue with a child because they are so excited about their birthday compared to your wedding when it seems like he barely even knows you?”
“I completely understand why [original poster] annoyed because this kid is running around shopping for clothes for himself at [her] date with the bride, but she lost her footing when she started arguing with a 15 year old about the relative importance of weddings compared to birthdays,” a second user wrote.
“What a weird pee contest,” said a horrified third reader.
And while many comments were supportive of the teenage girl, some were sympathetic to the bride.
“Bridal shopping is a tradition and an occasion, you don’t just decide on a whim to make it your shopping experience,” commented one supporter.
The bride is not the only one who has problems with her family over her wedding dress.
A mother-in-law sought to avenge her son and daughter-in-law’s criticism of the dress she wanted to wear to their wedding by wearing her own bridal gown for their big day.
Another bride claimed her fiancé’s family had blacklisted her because of her wedding dress.
https://www.thesun.ie/fabulous/8167865/mother-bought-gown-teen-during-my-wedding-dress-appointment/ My mother-in-law bought a dress for her teen on MY dress-up date – I was branded a bride because I was crazy