Dear Deidre: My parents are putting quite a bit of pressure on me and my wife to have children for them.
Every time we see them or talk on the phone, they mention friends who are enjoying being grandparents and say they can’t wait anymore. Or they bluntly announced that they didn’t understand why we made them wait.
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We have been married for two years. I am 29 years old and my wife 27. We want to have children and have been trying since we were married but my wife has endometriosis and we have not been successful.
We have an early appointment with a fertility specialist to see if we need help.
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My wife doesn’t want my parents to know because she wants to deal with our fertility issues privately.
But I wonder if telling them means they will be more understanding and put less pressure on us.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your parents mean well, but their comments can add to your stress and therefore won’t help with your fertility challenges.
If your wife wants your medical diagnosis to be kept private, it’s best to respect her wishes.
Admit you can see how excited they are at the idea of becoming a grandparent and ask them to be patient.
I am sending you my support package for fertility issues which explains where you can get support.
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