DEAR DEIDRE: My partner spends £250 a week on cigarettes but then whines he has no money.
He didn’t contribute anything to our bill, so I had nothing left at the end of the month.
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He is 37 years old and I am 34 years old. We have been together for three years.
I love him and he’s not a bad person, but his behavior is selfish and unfair.
I never spend on myself and I can’t save money either.
He seems to think that cigarettes are a necessity because he can’t manage without them, so I should understand.
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I make more money than he does, but that’s partly because he doesn’t try to do a better job.
I talked to him about this and even said I’d like him to move out if things don’t improve, but he doesn’t take me seriously.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner is acting like a kid. He expects you to support him, while he spends money on his unhealthy addiction.
You need to make it clear that he makes his fair share or you want him to leave.
My package of support, standing up for yourself, will help you.
Quitting smoking will improve both his health and your relationship. Suggest him contact Quit (quit.org.uk0800 00 22 00) for support.
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