“My pregnancy is high risk but my husband refuses to cancel his vacation to stay with me.”

The mother was concerned her husband would be leaving for 10 days while she faces a traumatic time – she had to have an emergency C-section at 32 weeks in her last pregnancy

Pregnant woman and toddler
Her husband would be away for 10 days and she would have to take care of their toddler during this time (stock image)

When you’re pregnant, the last thing you want is for your significant other to leave you alone to babysit your toddler — especially if they’re going on a trip that might involve a lot of partying.

One mother claims to have found herself in exactly this situation, and to make matters worse, she shared her high risk.

She accepted reddit ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum to explain what happened and ask for advice.

She explained: “My husband is planning to take an all-out celebratory trip to Europe with colleagues soon (and adding a few days to see family). At the time of his trip I will be 32/33 weeks pregnant with our second child.

“While I would really love for him to go and have fun, there are several reasons I’m not comfortable with him going on this journey.”

She then listed the reasons why she felt unwell – the pregnancy is high risk, she is looking after her toddler, they have recently moved to another continent and have no support network, he would be gone for 10 days 15 hours and the 32 weeks mark is an emotional time due to her recent pregnancy.

The woman was concerned about her recent pregnancy (stock image)


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She’s also at a higher risk of developing pre-eclampsia, and to make matters worse, the event is taking place at a location known for its party scene.

She continued, “While I don’t want to be the one to tell him he can’t go, I did mention to him that I felt uncomfortable about him going on this journey. He says he feels bad about leaving, but doesn’t consider canceling.

“Am I the asshole for making him feel bad for going on this journey? Or is he an asshole for putting this trip ahead of the well-being of his wife and children?”

People assured the woman that she wasn’t wrong in wanting her husband’s support while she’s pregnant.

One said: “How the hell are you supposed to take it easy with a toddler with no support system? You don’t know anyone at the moment and ‘picking up nothing’ is impossible with a small one.

“If your husband is still planning on going on this journey, regardless of the risk to you and your baby (not to mention the toddler!) then he’s the asshole and you need to remind him that now you are the priority , not a European holiday.

“Step on the gas and his behavior will tell you if he really cares about you and the kids. Then you can plan the next steps.”

Another wrote, “If he doesn’t reconsider this trip and stay home I would reconsider the whole marriage!”

“When your husband is old enough to be a husband and father, he’s old enough to put his desires aside and focus on his responsibilities: to you, to your toddler, and to your unborn baby,” he quipped one.

They continued, “Given all the risk factors for your pregnancy, he’d be the asshole to go on this journey anyway. He needs to be at home helping with the toddler and making sure you are following the doctors orders. Commands to protect your baby.

“Will it suck for him? Yes. Is it a crap? Absolutely? Does that change things? no Being an adult means making tough choices and this is one of those times.”

Would you expect your husband to stay? Let us know in the comments.

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