My widower freaked out when we were about to have sex

DEAR DEIDRE: Recently became very close to a man I have known for over 20 years.

Things were very steamy between us and we were very close to having sex.

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But just as we were figuring it out, he suddenly panicked and came up with lame excuses.

He had a “glaring headache”, a “stomach rumbling” and another time he ran away from home because he “left the oven on”.

I am 67 years old and recently divorced, he is 71 years old and recently widowed.

It’s getting embarrassing because it’s clear there’s an issue he doesn’t feel comfortable talking about.

I told him I would understand if he had an erection problem and we could work it out together, but he insisted it wasn’t a problem.

DEIDRE SAYS: If this man did not speak, it would be very difficult to understand what was going on.

To ease the pressure on the situation, why not suggest that you take things slowly physically?

He may simply be struggling to become intimate with someone new after his wife’s death, in which case bereavement counseling would be helpful.

Or he might be embarrassed if he can’t make it.

In that case, it would be good for him to visit his doctor to rule out any medical problems.

Rest assured that for most erection problems, there are simple steps that can restore a normal sexual response.

I am sending you my support package, Fix Erection Issues, which you can pass on to him if relevant.

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