Sincerely: I’ve had sex with three younger women and it’s been great – but now one is pregnant.
I am a 53 year old married man and own a jewelry store. My wife is 56 years old and we have been together for 33 years.
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Our marriage was happy until she passed her fifties and then it was like a light switch going off. She no longer wanted sex.
It causes debates, as I am a person of need.
One evening, when I suggested we go to bed early, she flipped over and said, “If you really want to try to get through, why don’t you find someone else?”
She said she had been thinking about it for a while. Sex is not important to her and she has lost her libido. Her proposal seemed to be the perfect solution, as I didn’t want to end my marriage.
I signed up for a dads website, where I got a ton of women interested in me, especially when I told them I owned a jewelry store.
Then I started seeing three of them separately. One of them is 35 years old and the other two say they are 27 years old.
It’s great. We’ll go to dinner and I’ll book a hotel or go to their place for sex.
But then one of them confessed that she lied about her age. She is actually 21 years old.
She’s younger than my son and I’d run a mile if she’d been honest with me from the start.
Then she asked to meet me for coffee and I thought it would be a good opportunity to tell her that this wasn’t working.
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But she dropped the bomb that she was pregnant. She wants to keep the baby and will not consider terminating the contract.
Apparently she thought I was a rich guy who would provide for her and the baby – but that’s not the case.
DEIDRE SAYS: You will have to be honest and tell her that if she keeps the child, it is your responsibility to support the child financially and preferably emotionally, not her mother.
I’m afraid it’s going to be a tough road ahead for her because being a single mom isn’t easy.
My support package called Unplanned Pregnancy tells her where to look for help.
If she moves on, you’ll have to figure out how to explain things to your wife, and you may need some couple advice if your marriage is to survive.
Find help through the College of Sex and Relationship Therapy (costt.org.uk, 020 8106 9635). A therapist can help bring you closer emotionally and sexually.
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