Dear young gay man
I know sometimes you think your life is worthless. You look into the future and can’t see anyone in it with you. You don’t know where you fit into your family and your community. you feel alone You don’t know anyone like you
You look at your straight friends. They want what they have. You have crushes on other men. They imagine what a future as an openly gay man would be like. You think that’s not an option for you. You look at what happened in Sligo this week and it confirmed what you’ve always suspected – being gay is wrong.
It is not wrong. You didn’t choose to be gay – you’re just gay. That’s how God made you. You didn’t have a choice, but you must choose to come out. It’s like tearing off a plaster. You just have to do it.
Your parents will be fine. You may need some time to get to grips with it. They need to reconsider their life plan for you, but hopefully they will, and they will become your biggest ally, your biggest supporter.
If they don’t, that’s their loss. They will miss getting to know you, knowing your friend, knowing the wonderful and beautiful person that you are.
What happened in Sligo is disturbing, devastating and terrifying. But it’s the exception. It’s rare. It is not representative of the Ireland you are coming to. The Ireland you are coming to voted overwhelmingly for marriage equality. The Ireland you are coming to is one that loves you, embraces you and accepts you.
Don’t let Sligo stop you from coming out and being the very best person you can be. You’ll feel lighter, you’ll be able to breathe and be yourself in a way you haven’t since your early teens. Believe in yourself and be yourself.
We’re here for you.
https://www.independent.ie/news/open-letter-to-young-gay-men-being-gay-isnt-wrong-its-not-a-choice-believe-in-yourself-41558241.html Open letter to young gay men: Being gay is not wrong, it’s not a choice, believe in yourself